How can I learn to be more outgoing?

Question

Is it possible to fix this or am I going to be shy the rest of my life? =/

I honestly do TRY to talk more around people but it never seems to work out

Answer 1

Join a club or sport where there is a bunch of people. Once you get to know them, and get good at whatever you choose, your confidence in what you do, turns into confidence that turns you into being more outgoing. It worked for me.

Answer 2

be happy with yourself, be the shy person! Who cares?

Answer 3

try to be around ppl that are very outgoing that way you'll meet more friends and start having more confidence when meeting new people

Answer 4

Volunteer your time by helping others and get involved with the community. Be outgoing in a positive way.

Answer 5

Join the club. I had/have the same problem. It can be very intimidating to be outgoing. You just have to push yourself. I had to. I'm still very shy when it comes to approaching women. I have to approach women like a business transaction, this is how I trick myself into making it easier. Take something that you feel comfortable doing and approach people like you would that comfortable thing. I find this works pretty well. Yes it can be tough and frightening but it is ultimately worth it.

Answer 6

I can say that I too tend to have this problem at school, at least until spring rolls around, and I start track.  Track boosts my confidence a ton b/c there are girls and guys and you're like one big happy family. try to join a club, even though its going to intimidating.  Also I found that last year when I was in a play it almost completely cured my stage fright.  Just try to be around people and talk alot to them. Join a play, they are fun with a bunch of outgoing people.

Answer 7

get naked. it works for me

Answer 8

okay well you have to understand that no one is perfect okay, well you just have to be your self and if no bodys like you for who you are then their not worth it! well just be your self and thats the key okay and just always try to start a topic and try not to be so shy okay, hope i helped and hope you no what i mean

Answer 9

I have been shy and i have been outgoing.   With me, this was the difference.

When I was shy, I lacked confidence.   i was overweight and not at the top of my game in education or sports.

When I was outgoing, It was the result of my successes.  Either I was In shape, doing well in my job or school....etc

I realize not everybody is like this, but since I have a propensity to be shy, I find I need a higher level of confidence than the average person before I become outgoing.

Answer 10

I had a friend who was super shy, and then she got a job working in customer service, just at a cothing store. That forced her to come out of her shell, and she is more outgoing because of it.

Good Luck.. Hope this helps!

Answer 11

Find things you like to do in public that you don't care to hear or worry about anyone elses thoughts.

HAVE FUN!!  =)

Answer 12

Practice, practice, practice.  Try boosting your self-esteem a little with some self-help books.  Look in the mirror everyday and tell yourself that you are just going to be more outgoing today.

Answer 13

me too! maybe your just an introvert like me. i've become more outgoing once i got comfortable mith myself and my body. also, being around good friends will really open you up.

Answer 14

it's okay to be shy!  I'm a very outgoing person, but the guy I date is very shy.  Opposites attract ;-D

Anyway love yourself for being shy, but if you want to be more outgoing try hanging out with more outgoing people.  Sometimes they can help bring you out of your shell.

But remember shy = mysterious and sometimes people like that.

Answer 15

you have to 1.   say hi to people wen you see them 2. say wats on your mind... talk about ramdom stuff crack a joke......... and show your self!!! get out of that shell!!

Answer 16

just be friendly and start a conversation with something interesting

Answer 17

hey girl.  I totally now what you mean! I"m super shy, but I think the best way to be more out going is to join school club and met new people, after a while you'll let your guard down and you won't be so shy.  Or just breathe, and tell yourself life's to short to live with regrets and try little things to get you out of your comfort zone.  Best of luck :)

Answer 18

Look at your situation in perspective: you are just one person who should not care what other people think and nothing is stopping you from saying whatever you want. I know it sounds corny, but really. You should not give a rat's *** about what people might think. Just speak to people. It becomes much easier after you start.

If that doesn't help, get drunk! It helps me=]

Answer 19

Look in the mirror every morning, and say your smart enough, your skilled enough, and gosh darn it people like you!! It feels silly the first couple times, but u will see results. U dont have 2 use those exact words, but your prefference of affirmations.

Answer 20

OK first of all you have to be confident and if you wanna be a talkative girl you have to start it from your family talk a lot in home .. anything .. none-senses.

but try to speak politely and point-full. that worked for me i dare say that i was one of the shiest person in the world...

Answer 21

I used to be the same in primary.

If I had an answer or suggestion I would tell my friends and they would say it for me.

I wasn't comfortable meeting new people AT ALL.

And I freaked out with speeches. (I still do!)

But once I realised that it was an issue, a year or so later I was cured! A while ago I was called "cocky" haha.

Push yourself to talk to people.

Watch confident people, they do things alot differently to unconfident people.

Try to copy the way they walk, stand, talk.

But don't get too cought up about it.

Alot of people find shy people cute. (:

Answer 22

I used to be very shy, but then I tried doing something adventurous. I tried out for my school talent show( back in second grade) and auditioned for local musicals. I became more open and out of my shell. But even now, I sometimes get shy. It's something you can get out of but can't get rid of.

Answer 23

I used to be shy but became more outgoing. I move alot so I kinda have to get myself out there. I'll give you a challenge. Everyday go up to someone and introduce yourself. "Hi my name is (your name here) and my favorite color is (your favorite color here). What's yours?" And you can go from there. It's going to be hard at first but after a while it will seem like a piece of cake.

Answer 24

When I'm not feeling confident I fake it, and after a few minutes of faking it I start to feel it. :) When I was younger I was impossibly shy (never talked unless spoken to, never smiled unless I was with friends, head down when I walked, etc) but now I'm fairly outgoing. It is possible to overcome shyness.