How can I let my son go off to college?

Question

I have known this day was coming for a long time and now that i is here, I don't know what to do. My son is going to college next week out of state...not only that but he will be in the ROTC program and I think that means not too many vacations home. I thought I was okay about this but the other day, out of the blue, I started crying and I thought I was never going to stop.

I know it is right for him to go but selfishly, I wonder what I am going to do without him. My husband and I don't get along too well and we have both used my son to ignore our problems. I know...work out the problems with my husband. Easier said than done.

I feel like the years my son was a little boy went too, too fast. I want them back. HOW DO YOU DEAL WITH ABSOLUTE INEVITABILITIES??? PLEASE GIVE ME A CLUE.

Answer 1

Yes I can identify with you.  I have a son who left for the Marines one year ago and another son leaving this Thursday for his 3rd year in college.

I have reached out to my counselor to keep me focused and now attend Alanon meetings to teach myself to focus on me.....:)

I also try to think about how proud I am of both of them and how it is difficult for them to leave me too.  I am a single Mom. They need to grow and we need to support them....

Answer 2

I'm sorry about what your going through...It is normal when a child leaves home in any case to feel sad and depressed. I hate what going on with your husband, but it will be best to work those problems out and see if you can rekindle an old flame.

I suggest that maybe you try counseling to work out your problems. Try to do somethings that you enjoyed doing before you were married or had a child.

Do you have any little nieces or nephews, or little ones in the family. Try spending some time with them.

Find your purpose because you do have one!!!

I hope everything turns out ok for you!