How can I live a happier, more positive life?

Question

I'm a senior in high school, and quite frankly I hate it. I'm not your typical teenager. I don't party or drink, in fact I've never been to a "real" high school party, just because I'm not comfortable being around drunk, crazy people. I know this is probably part of my problem but I don't really like most of the girls my age. I'm from a small town, and 99% of the girls here are so childish and dramatic about everything...i just can't stand it. I have a twin brother so I'm really close with all the guys in my grade, they're all like brothers to me. The problem I'm having is I try to do the right thing, you know the whole "make the right decision" thing. Because I want to be a good person, you know live a good life. I've never had s*x, I've never done drugs, I've never drank, I've never even smoked a cigarette. Don't get me wrong im not a big christian and I'm definitely not judging people that do any of those things, but its just not for me. I'm very true to myself, and it just seems like that's not good enough for anyone these days. I used to have the best friend anyone could ever ask for, i mean she was absolutely wonderful we trusted each other with EVERYTHING, until she started giving into peer pressure and now we hardly even speak. I'm not saying that I don't have friends, because I am liked, I was voted homecoming queen and everything, but everyone's just an acquaintance. I don't have a single true friend...no one to talk to, to share problems with or even just hangout with. In fact I just stay home most of the time, because doing stuff by yourself all the time gets kind of old. And that sucks...it's kinda like I'm all alone in this big world ya know? So I'm just wondering if its all worth it? Will it ever get any better? Because the older I get it seems like the worse the world gets. And now I'm just left wondering if there's truly any good in this world. I'm sure I'm just depressed, but I just wanted to know another person's opinion. And if anyone has advice for me I would love to hear it.

Answer 1

I HATE high school girls. Most of them are materialistic, superficial, judgemental, S****y, etc. I'm the complete opposite of that, so I've been in a similar situation. I feel like in college things change. Not a lot, but they do. I think college will be a great experience for you, that is -- if you plan on going. My sister had good friends in high school but then slowly they changed into bad people. Then when she started college, she met her real friends. There is hope for you. The world has changed for the worse, but it's not like everyone is screwed up. There has to be people out there just like you. I would give it some time. As for this year, just enjoy being a senior. You probably won't have to do much work because it's your last year. Prepare for life after high school, I promise you will not always feel this way. Take care! <33 x

Answer 2

I understand the fact that you want to be true to yourself and not give in to peer preasure but there is a limit to bein to good and bein good  ur only a teen once you have all your life to do the right thing im not saying go out there and get drunk and go freakin wild buh have funn live alittle make som friends jus let losse a litte cause at the end of the day u wont regret it!!

Answer 3

You sound like a really good person. And mature as well. I believe you'll find that most of the people in your little word (school  ) won't have much of a role in your adult life which is right around the corner. I admire the fact that you are so aware of the peer pressure around you and don't give in to it. It takes a strong person with some very firm convictions not to be swayed by others. Have you ever wondered why people who do the type of things you've described are always putting pressure on others like yourself? I believe it's a lot like the little kid that's always tattling on another. By tearing the other down, they feel better about themselves. Same here.They see you as someone different and instead of wanting to do better themselves, they want you to become worse like them. Pretty messed up!

Anyway I ramble. Have you ever considered volunteering somewhere like a local hospital?

I find that if I'm helping others it gives me a sense of accomplishment and I don't have time to think so much about myself.