How can I make dropping my son at preschool easier?

Question

My son is 2 & has started preschool this past Monday. Every morning up until thursday he was fine, now I can't get him to quit screaming when I leave. I feel so bad and I know that he's scared, but he's healthy and just went to the doctor, so I know there's nothing wrong with him. He just refuses to let me leave. I feel bad because I have to leave him there screaming and go to work, but what can I do? It's his first time in preschool and I'm at wits end! Please someone help!

Answer 1

He's overstimulated and probably hasn't been sleeping as well at night. Make sure you have a solid bedtime routine and a peaceful morning routine. Be prepared ahead of time with lunches packed, clothes laid out, etc. During this upcoming weekend, talk to him positively about preschool - help him talk about what he liked, and act excited about going back on Monday.

If the behavior keeps up another week or two, ask if you can observe him at school without him seeing you. The children or teacher may be mean, or he just might be too young.

Answer 2

I am going through thte same exact problem as you right now.

My 3.4 year old started school 2 weeks ago, she goes Mon-Wed 8-3. This is so I can work as well.

She cries when I drop her off, and she reaches out for me to pick her up, I feel so sad inside.

But when I pick her up she seems to be happy, she is either coloring or playing with the other children, and one day I went to pick her up early and she decided to stay so that she could have lunch with her friends. (That made me feel better) Now, she even takes naps at school (this shows me that she is comfortable in her surroundings)

The thing is when it is time for her to go back to school she tells me please just take me home, don't leave me, and so we have to go through the same thing over and over again every morning. On her second day she cried all day, and the other days she cries for about 10 minutes after I leave.

Deep down inside I know that she enjoys it, but it will take her some time to get used to it. She even has to deal with an intimidating girl.

Hopefully it will get better for me and you.

Answer 3

I guarantee you that he stops screaming within a minute of you leaving. It's a horrible feeling walking back to your vehicle just knowing that you left him in there upset. I know exactly how you feel. I've gotten to where I give the goodbye kisses and hugs and "have a good day" while I'm getting her out of the car. I let her walk in the building because if I hold her it makes it even harder on her. She walks into her classroom and I wave at the teacher just to say "Good morning! Here she is!!" then I quietly go out the door. It will get better. My daughter has been at the same daycare since she was 4 months old.. but she still has those mornings that she just wants to stay with mommy. Good luck to you!!

Answer 4

It gets easier - he's only been going for a few days really. My son acted like that, too. He'll get more used to it and maybe even be upset that he isn't going on Saturday and Sunday! It's a huge adjustment being away from you and the house.  

Answer 5

This needs to be like bedtime - a routine. Go in, sign in, put his things down, say bye, kiss, and LEAVE. Don't stop. Keep going. He stops after you leave. If he knows you will stay, he'll keep acting this way.

I also have a policy, if I leave to take him to school, he goes to school, period. Once you stop and turn around, it is all over.

He'll get used to it. Better now than later.

Good luck and best wishes.

Answer 6

Have you ever tried beating his ***?

Always seems to work out for me.