How can I make it stop, and for once be happy?

Question

I am so incredibly depressed, hate myself to bits, question the purpose of life 24/7 and always end up in the dumps.

I have tried to join clubs and become more social but my parents won't let me out. Seeing the doctor was an option but that hasn't helped. I just feel pained and trapped. I really wish i was dead.

It sounds pathetic but i really feel helpless, it isn't as easy as you may think, aiming for high in life.

Answer 1

This answer is kinda long, but try to read it. Listen, there is no easy answer for you right now, because you are the only one feeling the pain that you feel right now.  Other people may have gone or may be going through similar experiences, but your rough times are specifically yours.  There may not be much that i can say right now to help you feel better, but know that people do care about you. I cant say that i have been through what you are going through, but i can tell you that i am truly sorry that you are going through it.  You need friends right now to talk to about your feelings. Since your parents will not let you get out much, then this is one way to vent your feelings and frustrations about how you feel. People will listen to you if you reach out to them like you are doing. Keep talking to people through email or find a chat room and talk to others who are experiencing similar problems.  Im sorry that your parents do not give you the love and understanding that you deserve, but we cannot control the actions of others in our environment.  It hurts when loved ones act this way, but all that you can do is keep being the better person and love them no matter what.  I know it is hard because i have a brother who has really hurt my mom and dad with things that he has done. He acts like he owes them nothing and keeps taking from them whenever he needs something, acting as if they owe him for the bad actions that he has chosen to commit.  I want to hate him sometimes, but in the end he is family, and i just have to hold on to the hope that he will wake up some day and realize the pain that he is causing everyone.  I know that my problem is a grain of sand beside yours, but i just want you to know that to a small extent, i know the hurt and confusion that you are feeling right now.  When it involves your parents it is ten times worse and again i am really sorry for your situation.  I makes me sad to see someone who has to look for a reason to live in life.  Life is a precious thing and we only have one chance to live it(in this world). I know that you are having a hard time and that you think you would be better off dead, but listen when i say that is never the best option.  If you want a good reason to live, i will give you one, LOVE.  I do not know if you believe in God or not. If not, let me assure you that He is real, and He is the best one to go to with problems.  If you do not believe that he is real, then click on my profile and look under the questions that i have tried to help other people resolve.  Look for the question entitled help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! and read the answer that i helped that person with. God is the best reason to live for, because one day, He will comfort all of those faithful to Him who have read his word and followed His teachings.  God is always there to help us and to listen to our problems. He may not answer every prayer, but He still cares all the same and will hear everything that you have to say.  All that i ask is that you investigate this alittle further if you do not believe. You have nothing else to lose, and i promise that you will feel better and be able to deal with life's problems better with God on your side. I would really appreciate it if you would read my answer to that question and let me know how you feel about it after reading it.  Im not trying to throw religion on you and make you feel guilty if you are not religious. You may very well be and if you are, that is great.  I just want you to find hapiness in your life, and I understand that right now things look dim, but do not give up. Let me know what you think about that other question and if it helped you any. I really would like to help you. If you ever need to talk any more, e-mail me and i would love to help you in any way that i can. Hang in there and remember that people do care about you.

Answer 2

I know that you may not believe me right now but trust me your life WILL get better. I'm not saying that it will happen over night, in fact you proberly won't even notice that your life has changed, but it will.

I can say this because I was in the same place as you were not too long ago. I'm 22 now and have been suffering from depression since I was 12 years old. I still get bad days but nothing like I used to.

The best thing to do is to find someone (e.g friend, parent, doctor) to talk to about how your feeling. When I felt really bad I used to write everything down in a book, just to get it out of my head. And it made me feel alot better.

I hope this helps. You will be happy again.

Tye x

Answer 3

I was once like that I cried all the time actually tried to kill myself, then the doctor prescribed my happy pills and  I am one of the happiest people I know.

Answer 4

HOW TO BE HAPPY

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Perhaps above all, be as healthy as you can. Nothing is more valuable than your health and little is more likely to make you unhappy than ill-health. For many tips on how to be healthy click here

Most fundamentally, recognise that happiness is a state of mind and not something which can be defined objectively. You can change your state of mind in many ways including the following suggestions.

More importantly than anything else, live with a partner whom you love and respect and who feels the same about you. Kiss and cuddle and compliment often and regularly buy unexpected little gifts.

When you're old enough and in a steady relationship, have a son or a daughter. Tell them often how much you love and admire him/her and do anything to help him/her.

Have a cat or a dog. Stroke often.

Keep in close touch with relatives and a small circle of friends. You can't beat their love and support.

Conversely, if there is a person in your life who is a negative influence and who is dragging you down in some way, don't be afraid to get remove such a person from your life.

Smile a lot. Smiles make you miles better - and you smiling will make others smile. As Rabbi Nachman of Breslov (1772-1810) put it: “Always wear a smile. The gift of life will then be yours to give.”

Laugh a lot. If you need some help click here.

Say what you mean and mean what you say. Honesty really is the best policy.

Be politely assertive. Say how you feel and explain what you want. Friends and colleagues can't be mind readers.

Give lots of compliments. You will make others feel good about themselves and find that this gives you pleasure too.

Give small gifts to your friends. To give is even more pleasurable than to receive.

For a special thrill, perform acts of kindness anonymously so that the person benefiting does not know that you're responsible. If you don't understand this, watch the French film "Amélie" [

When your birthday or Christmas is coming, prepare a list of the presents you'd like and give it to a partner, relative or friend to 'manage'. That way people won't struggle to choose a gift for you and you'll receive what you want and like.

Spend less than you earn. The figures may have changed and the decimal system may have arrived, but the lesson is still the same as when, Charles Dickens in "David Copperfield" had Mr Micawber opine: "Annual income twenty pounds, annual expenditure nineteen, nineteen, six, result happiness. Annual income twenty pounds, annual expenditure twenty pounds, nought, and six, result misery".

Use your credit card as a convenient way to pay for your major expenditures on a monthly basis - not to obtain credit at an outrageous level of interest.

As Shakespeare put it in "Hamlet", "Neither a borrower nor a lender be". Don't borrow money unless you absolutely have to (for instance, to buy a house or car). Don't lend money - even to relatives - unless you genuinely don't mind if it's not repaid.

Don't gamble. There's enough uncertainty in your life without you adding more - and anyway, in the long run, you can't win. (A little flutter on the lottery is allowed.)

Give regularly to the charities of your choice. Make at least one of those charities an organisation addressing world poverty. Regularly increase your contributions as your income rises.

Wear the most expensive after-shave (usually men!) or perfume (usually women!!) you can afford. It will make you feel good.

If you are a woman, get your hair done. This will always make you feel better about yourself.

Surround yourself with pleasant smells. Have flowers, pot-pourri or scented candles in most rooms of the house and in your office.

Stay close to nature. Have flowers and plants in your home and office [see the website Plants for People  Spend time in the garden or local park. Take walks in the countryside and by the seaside.

Every so often, spend a little time observing the night sky. As you contemplate the distances and time involved, it will put your life and your concerns into more perspective.

Read a quality newspaper on a daily basis. Learning is fun and the easiest way to learn is to check out news and features each day so that, over time, your knowledge and interests grow and deepen.

Take a weekly or monthly magazine reflecting a personal interest. You'll come to really look forward to each new issue, like a visit from a friend.

Read regularly and widely. Good fiction will widen your vocabulary and put you in touch with your emotions, while a range of non-fiction will extend your knowledge and interests.

Listen to some rousing music. For classical music, try Saint-Saëns Symphony No 3 (organ) or Beethoven's Symphony No 9 ('Ode To Joy'). For popular music, try "Atomic" by Blondie or "Relax" by Frankie Goes to Hollywood.

Have a favourite te

Answer 5

I'm sorry sweaty you feel like that. In my opinion you should see a psychiatrist and a psychologist.  If you have done that and does not help you.  You probably has to change doctor or medication.  You probably has a chemical inbalance associated with some psychological problem.  I felt like that several times and I went to see a psychiatrist he gave me some medication but he did not explained to me that those medication take from 2 to 3 weeks in order to work.  I stopped.  Perhaps you need to change psychiatrist.  Talk to your parents and ask her the reason why they donn't let you join the club and explain to them how you feel.  You probably have a deep problem that you don't even know.  Pray real hard that help to find the right person that help you.  Remember this is only a temporary problem.  It's does not mean you will feel like that the whole life.  I will pray for you for guidance.  Please keep writing.  Write down in a peace of paper whatever is bothering you since the time you remember, also everything that bother you.    Ga

Answer 6

Sounds like you are having a problem with why you are here and loving your self. I have been there when I was growing I wanted to die all the time but the truth was I didn't want to die I just wanted the pain to stop. I had a lot going on and life dealt me some harsh cards. I hung in there and I made to adulthood and that wasn't any easier. You should tell your parents you need help now.

Answer 7

Are you on any medication?  If you are, definitely see your doctor again to have this reevaluated.  Let the doctor know where you are.  Don't hide your feelings from them. They can't help you if they don't know what you are feeling.  It may be hard.  If the doctor you went to before does not help, try and talk to an adult that you trust to help you.  Sometimes just talking to someone will help bring your mood up.  If you are truly depressed, medication can help.  My hsb is on antidepressants and will be on it for life.  Life is good!  Hang in there!   Things will get better.  I care!  I want you to be happy.