How can I make my parents understand me better?

Question

This has been my first summer in my town, and I have walked around there as much as I can.

I have finally met some of my neighbors, and my parents are not pleased with the boy I hang out with. We are the same age. He is very smart and never pressures me to do anything, and we talk a lot.

But since he is Arab, punk, poor, and from a single family, my mom considers him a 'lost soul that brings me down'. I am an upper-class prep, so she wonders why we hang out. We do because we compliment each other and actually care about each other.

They also think I am secretly dating him. Whenever they see me with him, they get a disappointed look on my face and then interrogate me.

They also want me home by nine. It was nine o'clock, and my mom called my cell phone. I was on my street, one block away. I got home at 9:03 and my parents grounded me and yelled at me.

Life for me is really sad now. I am judged by my parents, and to top it all off, my next door neighbor who was super nice died yesterday in a freak accident. She was 52, and it was so sudden.

How can they trust that I am fine to be talking to my friend?

I am 14 by the way.

Answer 1

You're 14 and dating??? you are still too young for those.But let me tell you somthing,it's like that.It's life.When a child is in her teenage years,it's the most challenging part for both you and your parents because you are changing not physically,but mentally as you grow.What you can do is talk to your parents.That' s the only way you will understand them,and them to understand you.Don't just sit and expect them to respect your needs and wants because you think you're old enough to get their understanding.THey've been there,so listen to what they have to say first.Hope that helps.

Answer 2

Tell your parents you need more freedom of choice and that you need to start deciding more on how you run your own life. if your parents say you have to be home by nine and they won't change the deadline to be back then meet the guy earlier so you can spend more time with him. Your parents seem a bit mean if they treated you how you described.

Answer 3

fu***  hate parents.4realz.same story here.my mom dont let me hang wit ma friends cuz they potheads.she try to make me hang out wit geeks.fu***  embarrasing.tell them that you know how to take care of yourself and that they are being overprotective.if they dont understand,then *** em'.hang with the dude and show em that your not going to let them push you and control you.

Answer 4

.... you are so young you should listen to your parents and respect them.