How can I make my son understand that he needs to mind?

Question

When I get onto my son I tend to yell allot and I am trying my hardest not to do that to him but it seems like the more I try to be nice and talk to him in a soft voice the more he does not listen but when I scream he will stop but of course start crying because I hurt his feelings and that is one of the reasons why I do want to stop and I know I need to.

Answer 1

I have no idea how old he is but this is what I use to do to my son. I would stop and neal down to his level and put my hands around his face and say, please look me in the eye and listen to what I am saying and then I would have his attention. I would make it perfectly clear that I was only going to tell him this one last time and if I had to speak to him again we were going home or he would be sent to his room for time out or I would take something away from him like a TV program or a game. It worked.

Answer 2

first of all make sure that he doesn't have any ear problem second of all you don't need to yell only practice on firm tone say the words slowly with a threatening tone and repeat it over and over 3-4 times if he did not listen then you can yell or put at timeout .  

Answer 3

What is he doing that is so horrible that you are screaming at this poor child?  Acting like a child rather than an adult?  

Answer 4

you need to keep your cool and use a firm voice.

Answer 5

yeah, yelling isn't going to solve anything. He will just get used to hearing you yell and start to tubne that out as well. When it comes to kids, actions speak louder than words. Usually when a parent has to repeat themself over and over is when they resort to yelling. You can cut the yelling out by taking action rather than using words. Have set rules and set consequences for breaking each rule. Then be consistent. If a rule is broken, no need to yell...simply enforce the consequence. It could be a time out. After the time out explain again why they were sitting and expect an aplogy. Be conssitent, THAT is the key. Kids learn from repitition and the more consistent you are the quicker they learn. Stop yelling and start taking action. That's my advice.

Answer 6

When I was getting frustrated with my children a friend told me to start the day with some type of quality time. Silly as it seems, it worked for us. If I spent a little time in the morning (On busy days just reading a short book) and my children listened better all day. I am sure you will find your way. Good Luck.