How can I make myself feel better?

Question

I miss being pregnant more than anything in the whole world.I loved being pregnant, honestly it wasnt the attention or anything like that it was just how beautiful and amazing it felt to be growing a baby inside of me. I had my son in march and the day i gave birth I started wanting a new baby. I am on birth control because my husband doesnt want another baby for another year or two and I want to go with that. but I feel so empty without a baby in my belly. Im not depresse, ive been to two different OBs and my midwife and they all say its normal it will pass. What can I do? I work part time as an EKG technition and spend the rest of the day with my son and when hubby gets home we spend time together. I have so much love for them that just being with my son and husband makes me want another baby more. Im not being irrational at all I just feel like everyone thinks im being irrational and its just hormones. IDK what to do. Has anyone ever been in the same position? did the feeling ever pass? I just need some hope for this situation! a few times a day I will realize that im just touching my belly or rubbing it like I used to do when I was pregnant and that sort of makes me feel sad. advice anyone? thanks so much!

Answer 1

I feel the same. My baby is 5 months old and since the day I brought him home I wanted another one! My husband and I are going to start trying when my baby is about 9 months old so they will be 1 1/2 years apart and I cant wait! I guess its just realizing what an amazing thing your body has done, and how precious your little one is. I'm sure it will get a little easier... but probably not pass until you have completed your family. Just hold off until you are sure you are ready to have the next one and in the mean time enjoy your little family you have now. Its normal I'm sure... how could you not miss having such an amazing thing happening in your body!  

Answer 2

when I was preg with my 2nd child I couldnt wait to see him and get preg again.  This is my last pre my 4th but I think I will be ok as far as missing being preg.  I will have to be/ I'll be 37 and have had 4 csections so its really not an option.  

I think I'll always long to be preg and I look forward to it when people I am very close to are preg that's the closest I'll ever get.  

Answer 3

Well it will pass. I was going threw the same thing. My daughter is 17 weeks and I been thinking about another baby as well. I t was just the glow that I has when I was [regnant nad how my fiancee cater to me. The thing I did was become active in different things. Try that being home just make you feel more comfortable.

Answer 4

OMG! I feel the exact same way!!!! My little girl is only 5 weeks old and my husband and I are already trying for another. We want our children to be close together and I cant wait to be pregnant again - I know exactly how you feel, I too have caught myself rubbing my belly or rocking back and forth like I use too when I was pregnant. I feel I have so much love to give and cant wait to extend my family. Please understand you are not alone.

Good Luck

Answer 5

I dont want to sound like everyone else, but it could be hormones. It sounds like you are a very good mom and wife! I had my daughter in june and Im starting to get the "urge" for another, the weird thing is, my husband is too. But we are also starting to plan for the future with our 2 kids. I would give yourself a few more months to figure out whats best for your family. Give your body some time to heal itself. Maybe you and a couple of your friends can go out for a day and just go shopping, get your hair cut...ect. That would probably make you feel better and realize that you dont have to be pregnant. It really sounds to me though that you truely want another baby. March isnt that far away, and your husband said another year or 2. Maybe if he realizes that you really want another, he will see that he wants another too. For the time being, I would enjoy your life now, with your son and your husband. :)

Answer 6

During and after Pregnancy our Hormones are wild.

All will settle down after a while.

Enjoy each second with your Family and embrace all the new things you discover about this Baby.

Take a couple of years and then add to your Family. You will have your hands full for a while.

Answer 7

I'm probably not much help but after I gave birth to my son I felt the same way. I loved the whole experience of being pregnant and giving birth and then caring for our precious newborn I just wanted to do it again. The feeling never really went away. I love being a mom and I love my son more than anything.

So somehow I talked my husband into it and we are expecting again. My son will be 17 mos when this little guy is born. Sometimes I feel sad about them being so close in age, simply because my son will have to "share" me. But I'm very excited.

I think maybe you should talk with your husband to find out what his reasons are for not wanting another child. Tell him how you truly feel. That's what I did! Good luck I hope you guys work it out!