How can I make someone how love me to leave me?

Question

I have a wife. But I have done something really bad and now I know I am wrong and try to fix it. When my father pasted away my wife did not really stand by my side and cared me. At least that is how I felt. Then a girl was really caring for me and talked to me. I started to feel that I love her. She is a very good girl and a very nice girl. I guess you know what happen. I fell in love with this girl. The BIGGEST problem is she is my niece. I know this is terrible and I am a monster. But my niece is not too much younger than me. She did not grow up with me and I have a big family so she is not too much younger than I am. But I started with her even though I have a wife (I know I should not have). After started with her at first it was like the begining of another relationship but about 2 to 3 months later I started to have nightmare about my father yelling at me for doing such thing.

To make the story worse my wife and I have 2 kids. When my father past away she was pregnant. I was very confused at that time. Lost and not knowing what to do. Anyway after starting with my niece for a few month I know I can not continue and I wanted to tell her. But I can not. I am afraid to hurt her. So I drag and it lasted for almost a year. Then my wife found out she was texting me and knew a little about our relationship. Of course I denide. I feel so guilty getting my niece in to this and my wife in to this. I know it is all my fault so I am trying to make things right. So I keep telling my niece that we can not be together because of who we are. Our family will never approve and I can not pass myself nor her grandpa. She refuse to listen and now she is starting to go psycho on me. She have climbed in to my house. cut up my wife stuff and trash her stuff.

My niece is saying it is all her fault because if she show me more love when my father past away I would not have started with her.

Please tell me What I can do to make things right. How Can I make my niece leave me and let me be alone with my family.

My niece have threaten to kill herself. I don't want that to happen. Please help. I know it is my fault be I also know it has to stop. Please how can she leave me?

Answer 1

Dude, Have you ever heard of INCEST? That is plain NASTY!!!! But you need some kind of advice. Look, if anything..you'll have to get a restraining order.  Your marriage is already on the rocks, is it worth saving? I don't know.  But it is one thing if you were unfaithful to your wife with another female OUTSIDE of the family, but in the family? MAN you need an expert with this one,.....Maybe Therapy? I actually send my condolences to your wife!!! And for YOU..... May God  Have Mercy on You!!!!!!

Answer 2

Oh my goodness!!!! I am so glad I'm not your wife. You should just disappear into the abyss.

Answer 3

Ah, the self-righteous have spoken… Personally, I don't see how telling this man to 'disappear into the abyss' helps anyone. He's confessed his sin and guilt and cannot undo what has already been done.

Sadly, the consequences of this are not easily dealt with. This is not just about you ridding yourself of an inconvenient problem in your marriage. There are now TWO women hurting like h**l and you have to try to do the right thing by BOTH of them. It is right to be honest with your niece about needing to end the relationship, but where is the support for her through this? You can't force her to do anything, but do whatever you can to help her find the love and support she needs from elsewhere. Your wife has you (if she can forgive you and stay in the marriage), but she also will need the support of a trusted friend, or perhaps a professional counsellor.

It's not easy but try to put the needs of your wife and children first, your niece second, and yourself somewhere down the list. I sincerely hope there are brighter days ahead for everyone involved.

Answer 4

You need some serious freakin help,I was following you until you got to the part about your neice..ugh..you should be ashamed of yourself.