How can I make sure I stay close friends with my cousins during this? (PLEASE READ)?

Question

This is kinda confusing, but try to stay with me:

Okay, so my cousin Shannon is pretty much my best friend. I tell her everything, she tells me everything, we have inside jokes, we hang out at each others houses all summer (we're really tight). Anyways, her mother (my aunt) kinda has some problems now. She used to be an awesome mom (making sure they did school work, making sure theyre fed, clothing them, ect), but now her and her 'husband' broke up (well, hes not her husband, but they have 2 kids together and were together for about 12 years) and everyone thought him leaving would only better her (because he was kinda controlling). Anyways, after he left she got together with her 'high school sweetheart' whos only ruining her life, seriously. He works as a DJ (she has to drive him there AND back in the car he doesnt pay gas for) and the money he makes goes to his kids from his previous marriage. Plus, my aunt quit her job and her and her 5 kids (and her oldest sons girlfriend and my aunts boyfriend) live of a Benefit Card. (They dont use the card wisely anyways, they dont go to Tops and get meals, they go to Wilson Farms [down the road] and get chips [the ONLY food in their house]). Where was I? Oh, and on top of that, one of my cousins is on drugs. So, finally, my other aunts and my moms are going to go over and talk to my aunt about getting her life under control (because my cousins might get taken away). My problem is that after my mom goes and talks to them, my cousin Shannon will be mad at me (because shes very very protective of her mom) (oh, and last time my other aunt got into a fight with her mom it ruined Shannon's relationship with my other cousin). So, after 'the talk', how do I stay friends with Shannon? I want her mom to be better (so their lives are better), but I still wanna stay friends with Shannon, any help?

Thankss :]

Answer 1

She can't be mad at you for it and if she is then tell her your family and your friendship is to valuable to loose, and that you shouldn't fight just because your mothers are fighting.

Explain to her that you want to help her and her family. Besides if she's going to be angry at anyone shouldn't it be your mom? It has nothing to do with you so how can she be mad at you!?

Answer 2

Just explain to her that you were only trying to make her life better. You're definitely helping her, and if she doesn't understand that, maybe you should take a break from being friends until she realizes that you were doing what's best.

Good luck!

Answer 3

You tell her that "the talk" is between the adults in the family and has nothing to do with the way the two of you are. Let her vent about your mom and don't go on the defensive with her when she does. You might want to even get her outta the house when this event takes place.

When she calms down tell her how you feel about it all. Since you two are so close tell her that you don't want to hurt her feelings but that you're concerned about the state taking her from you and want to put your heads together to keep it from happening. When you can, help her eat healthy, then maybe she can talk her mom into buying the proper foods to put in the house~

Answer 4

Remember true friends will always be friends no matter what the outcome is. Try to put yourself in your cousins place, try to see her fears. You're scared of  losing your cousin, don't you think she'd scared of losing you or her mom. I belive you did the right thing by telling your mother, Now try to be there for your cousin, don't try to explain your actions just listen to your cousin.