How can I move on and forgive myself?

Question

I had oral s*x with a boy that i had been with. I regreted it then and I regret it now. I wasnt preassured into it, but i felt pressure. I felt i had to. I hated it. I dont know what to do. im 15, and i hate myself. I wish i didnt do it. I have to accept that its happened now. But I hate what i've done. What should i do? I feel awful.

Answer 1

You have no reason to feel bad about it. Hopefully you enjoyed it. You don't have to do it again if you don't want to or if you don't feel ready. Curiosity got the better of you and it's all experience, you didn't do anything wrong or illegal. Move on, you've no reason not to.

Answer 2

You were pressured into in if you felt you had to. Never let anyone make you do stuff you are not comfortable with. I think you should talk to someone. But I'm guessing you wont talk to your parents. You should talk to a friend or your GP. If you talk to someone it may help you to move on. You have nothing to feel bad about. You were pressured into it, its not your fault.

Answer 3

dont worry about it i know that when ur in school and ur a teenager ur not suppose to do those sorts of things. it s a part of nature everyone does or have tried it at some point. you have discovered u dont enjoy it so refrain frrom doing it again. you should never feel pressured into doing anything sexual so make sure you choose your sexual partners more carefully in the future, cheer up.

Answer 4

Get over it.. it's normal.  Just don't do it again until your ready.

Answer 5

you need to put this down as a bad experience everyone has the your not the first and you wont be the last. so you made a mistake but theres no point in beating yourself up over something that you cant change you certinally shouldnt hate yourself. i think maybe you are a little young to be exploring sexually. concentrate on yourself, school family and friends then when you are ready these things will come. and it will be with someone who you care about and they care about you. . its all about respect and if you dont feel respected then please dont feel you have to go through with things just to please people. your worth more. hope that helps a bit good luck x*x

Answer 6

Do it again , it wont seem like such a big deal then .

Answer 7

don't be mad at your self its not healthy also its like loosing a pet everything moves on and id just forget about it also you could see a theripist

Answer 8

its already been done. although u may not be proud of it, its done and over with. everyone has things in their past that theyre not proud of and u just have to accept it and move on. its not the worst thing that u could have done anyways... just learn from your mistakes and remember that there are other 15 year olds that have done a lot worse...

Answer 9

It`s all right.Don`t worry so much just let it go.What can you do more? :)

Answer 10

learn from your experience, obviously you weren't ready at the time to give oral s*x, this doesn't mean you are abnormal and you shouldnt beat yourself up about it. you're still very young and maybe the boy you were with was a bit immature. don't ever let people pressurise you into something you don't want to do. you are the one in control, tell 'em to **** off

Answer 11

Just accept that it is past, you can't change the past. If you think it was bad and you believe in God, ask Him forgiveness and forget youself.  

Answer 12

Nothing.Stop beating yourself up over it as it is now past tense and put it down to experience. As you are only 15 it is illegal so advise the boy if he as plans to spread it around he may be prosecuted. The age for sexual activity is 16 as you are not mature enough to realise what you are involved in and the consequences of it as you have shown. As a result this may have damaged your opinion of oral s*x in later life with a loving partner.

Answer 13

And I can tell by the way you're talking

that the past isn't letting you go.

Well there's only so long you can take it all on

then the wrong's got to be on it's own.

And when you're ready to leave it behind you,

you'll look back and all that you'll see

is the wreckage and rust that you left in the dust

on your way to the Jubilee!

In short: your past choices do not define you. They amount to nothing but the stuff of lessons you have learned. If you are being plagued by others over the event, then they are being far more dishorable than you were at your weakest moment.

Why would you hate yourself now? Do you fear that faced with similar pressure in the future you will fold to it again? Your strength is never limited by your past choices. So, don' t look back, look forward. Yes, you chose that in the past. You've also learned anew that that is not what you want, so look into the unwritten future and see the possibility to make a fresh start.

Good luck!

Answer 14

Situations like this make me want to puke. Not because of what you did, but because lets put it into perspective shall we...

countries at war...

people dying as a result

people loosing their loved ones daily..

People with diseases trying to fight for their lives...

Now your one...

You gave a kid a BJ and you want to curl up and die..

Without sounding harsh...let it be a lesson to you and next time exercise some self control. That's all the sympathy this question deserves to be honest.

Half of what you wrote made no sense .. "i wasnt pressured but i felt pressure"..?

In my nice tone of voice - forget about it...seriously, there are WAY WAY bigger things to worry about. Put it behind you and let this be a lesson and at least you know how you will feel if you do it next time. :)