How can I move past a sadistic cruel bf when i am 8mths pregnant?

Question

He's actually never treated me right. He's 30 im 22. And he has no license(suspended)rents a room from his friend

But I loved him anyways and also felt bad he has a glass eye

he has been cold and sadistic offering NO support basically to me during my pregnancy

i mean he does then turns into an evil person

I reminded him i am 32 weeks preg why doesnt he have a place for us and also accused him of cheating due to his shady nature (shutting off cell all nite, etc)

So he took that and went on a verbal assault

he called my every name in the book and had the nerve to accuse me of cheating said i was a w***e I HAVE NEVER CHEATED!

he also said no one would want me and that "i could not get a hot 24 yr old, id have to settle for a fat person or old man"

and that plenty of girls are hotter than me i am nothing have nothing to offer

But the thing that hurt me the most was when he said i was "torturing the baby in my belly"

he made me cry ive been crying all day

It eats me alive that he is so unspeakably cruel to me when i am scared to death and need support and caring

'Why do you think he is doing this? He has not answered his phone or texts really at all and called me to say he wanted nothing to do with me and that the only good thing i had was the baby

which is NOT true because he could care less about the baby he never goes to doctor appts never asks how i am and look how he treats me

My ? is : why is he doing this to me? WHat did I do to deserve this? DO you think its because he wants to f*ck around on me then want me around again? (this has happened before, its like a cycle)

Answer 1

Why are you even worried about him cheating on you?? No woman deserves this kind of treatment and it's so sad to see woman putting up with this kind of behaviour!! You need to tell him, if theres so many more woman hotter than me, why arent you there with them?? And also tell him... i dont need a young hot guy, i'd rather have anyone in the world as long as he treated me better than you do!!! Just take it all away from him.... THIS IS ABUSE! its not about him cheating or you cheating nothing! you did nothing at all to deserve this kind of treatment he is a low life loser who is going no where in his life... hes 30 and lives ina room??? do you want your family to live in a room with an abusive man??? Think of your baby, do you want him to see you in tears all the time?? do you want him to see you guys fighting growing up thinking its normal boy or girl?? your child will grow up to think that is right and its not... your child deserves a better life than any life this man could give him (or her) so please get some help and find other support and leave this scum bag. I've seen the ugliest of girls with guys that "should be with me" lol i hope you get the picture from what i'm trying to say take your baby and leave him he has no right to treat youthis way

and remember when you cry... your baby cries with you... they feel your emotions

good luck and please please please leave this man!!! hes 30 and going NO WHERE! you still ghave your whole life ahead of you and with that alone you have way more to look forward to in life than thats piece of sh*t  

Answer 2

do whats best for your child and leave him. it does sound like hes cheating. youre carrying his child. He should be happy about that and praise you. you are giving his child life.

it sounds like he's cheating on you. don't let him do this to you anymore. it sounds like he's doing it cus he gets pleasure out of it.

leave his sorry a** you can find wayyyy better!

good luck love

Answer 3

He is cheating, all the signs are there.  Listen, you are going to be a MOM!!!  This baby is the single most important thing to you now.  Ask yourself if you want your baby to grow up living with a sadistic, cruel man, your words, not mine.  Do you want your child to grow up thinking this is what men are supposed to act like and the way he treats you is normal.  He is harming your child by all he is putting you through, you do not need that, and neither does the baby.  Who knows what he could bring home to you and your baby if he is messing around on you???  Would a man that really loved to two of you do that?  Cut ties and get out, it is for the best.  He is not going to change, even if he tells you he will, he couldn't change if he wanted to.  Think of your self and that baby and start a new life.  Maybe he will find another victim and let you and baby off the hook and leave you alone after you leave.

Good luck hun.

Answer 4

I can't beleive you call him your boyfriend!

Read what you wrote!

Answer 5

sweetie. it doesn't matter why he is doing this, or if he is cheating. some things are better left unknown. don't stress yourself out worrying about him, it's not good for you or the baby.

you can do it yourself. once you have that baby, you will feel like a strong independent woman and won't worry about him or anyone else.

You can always find a good guy to love you and your child, you don't need a scrub like him. you are beautiful, and other people will recognize that.

good luck

Answer 6

Why do you even have to ask this question - read what you have written again and you know what to do.

DUMP HIM

Do not subject your child to this man - he is terrible!

Answer 7

I think the answer to your question is obvious, he is an idiot, and you need to get rid of him. If he is being mentally abusive to you now, it will surely continue once the baby comes, and then you will not only be subjecting yourself to abuse but also your child. I know it seems as though you need him around to help with the baby, but you really DON'T need him around. He will be no help and once the baby is here, he will continue what he is doing now, and you will be putting more energy into worrying about him than taking care of the baby. Quit while you are ahead.

Answer 8

good God Ash maybe you should go back and read your own question and answer it as if were someone elses. i really think you should say yup i cheated on you and the baby isnt even yours so dont ever speak to me again and dont ever try to contact me. is that really the atmosphere you want to raise your child in? especially in a room rented from a friend. i think the reason he is treating you like this is because he is so disgusted by himself that he needs to belittle you and make you feel worse than him so he can feel better about him. the dudes a real d**k and doesnt deserve you or that baby. get as far away from him as possible.trust me you dont need him at all. and neither does that baby. yes the baby deserves a daddy. but not one that is gonna traet mommy like ****. just remember kids grow up and become what they see. dont do that to your baby.

good luck

if you lived close i'd give you a place to stay. a happy healthy place like you and the baby deserve.

Answer 9

Why are you so obsesses with the fact that he MIGHT be cheating on you??? Just cause someone turns their cell phone off at night DOESNT mean he's cheating....he might just want to get away from hearing your annoying voice!  He's doing this to you because he knows you are WEAK and will stay with him thru the abuse....what are you doing for your life....why are YOU doing this to YOURSELF...get away from him, stop talking to him, you dont need him!! YOU DONT DESERVE THIS.....if this is like the a cycle THEN STOP BEING A FOOL AND BREAK THE CYCLE, HELLLOOOO!!! wake up!!

Answer 10

get rid of his sorry *** and find someone who will love you and your child for who you are!!!! hes obviously not worth it

Answer 11

He does this quite simply because you let him get away with it.

Why do you want him anyway? He's obviously a douch*bag  and is aparently in no financial position to even be of assistance to you anyway. Get away from him- he'll only bring you and your baby unhappiness. Get assistance from family or friends or even social services if you need to, but I wouldn't hold out much hope for this guy supporting or caring for you.

Answer 12

leave his shady ***. he deserves to be lonely. basically what you said in the first part was that you were with him because you felt bad about his eye. talk to your parents. have the abby. they will help you i am sure. exclude him from the babys life and leave him the h**l alone.

one of my good friends is pregnant and found ou ther boyfriend broke into her hosue while she was at work and he stole jewelry and money and gave it to his other girlfriend. he is 30 and she is 19.

basically he is with you because you are young and it makes him feel like he is special because he has a young girl.

dont let him abuse you anymore. if you walk away then, a. he will either see the error of his ways and change or b he will not even think abou tyou again.

either way it isnt good for baby to be stressed out.

Answer 13

the way to move on is to keep reminding yourself what he is like. when you are in abusive relationships its actually harder than going it alone. i was in a simalar situation and didnt get out till the 2nd baby came, thats when i had enough and threw  him out. you need to get strong for your babies sake. you can do it on your own, and youll do a better job no having him around to cause you stress. good luck hunny. its gunna be tough no matter what you do.

stop trying to figgure out why he is doing the things he is doing. you will never know why. youll drive yourself nuts cos you cant ever have an answer

Answer 14

go to a councilor

Answer 15

For the health and safety and sanity of you and your baby girl move on! There isn't a man on this planet that is worth any parts of this. You and your baby deserve better and he obviously isn't providing anything but stress.I believe that your baby can feel what you are feeling. Totally not worth it.