How can I not be so hard on myself?

Question

I don't know what my deal is but I am SO hard on myself. I'm 22 years old and I played sports all throughout high school and was in tip top shape. I have a stressful job now and I feel like my body is changing. A couple days ago I ran a 5K just for fun with some family members and I was so slow....I was annoyed in pissy the rest of the day and mad at myself. This is just my personality, I am so hard on myself and feel like I have to achieve everything and be the best, not just in sports, but everything....it's horrible because it in turn makes me unhappy. Is anyone else like this? How do you learn to not take yourself so seriously and not be so hard on yourself?

Answer 1

If you Achieve a goal, then look for another goal to achieve, after you achieved that goal, then look for another, then another, then another.

It's a big world out there, there are so many things to achieve.

make your life exciting, life is too short.

there's no such thing as you achieve everything.

so don't be too hard on yourself... ok?

NOW, I ask you what are you going to achieve now?

Answer 2

Of course your body is changing it's all about the habits we keep, maybe you can run the 5K by yourself next time, so you can just let go and later every time you feel stressed out you do another 5 you body will go back to the way it was before and that's one less thing to be stressed about and I wouldn't recommend you feeling so much pressure at work; it will hinder your ability to concentrate and do a good job which means you will end up hating it, but if you just focus on the job itself instead of how you do it I bet you, you will do a whole lot better.

P.S if it all works send me a pic. lol just kidding

Answer 3

If you can focus on the positives rather than the negatives and let the inconsequentials go it might be a bit better for you.

Being competitive is an asset generally I think but it should not dominate life. Regards UK