How can I not talk back to my mom?

Question

I fight with her EVERYDAY. Lately its not getting better because we fight and we don't talk to each other for like a week. It got good again but then we went back to fighting.

I can't ever talk serious to her. I swear she's evil and abusive. :'(

She has hit me so many times. I think thats why i'm so shy in public. Because she hits and yells like crazy.

But i kinda know she cares because she's always working hard as a single mom...

What am i suppose to do?

I really can't take it anymore. I'm only in 10th grade so i have to wait a couple years before i can move out.

How can I try and bring some peace ?

Answer 1

If she says something to you, ignore it and walk away. Be the bigger one and think of how many tears you'd save if you'd just let her go on about her own problems. Now, I used to be abused, too and all and I'd talk back and lie, only making it worse. Just keep your mouth shut. Think about how if you say something, you are just feeding her the fire. Its good how you understand that she is a single mother and all. Talk things out with her. Write her a letter. Be mature and be yourself. Writing always helps. Take your anger out on writing, or drawing, or even a sport. I took my anger out on my mother onto the ice--hockey.  :) Just realize that she, too has feelings, and what you say, can hurt her.

Best of luck,

XoXo,

- <3

Answer 2

just say sry and walk away get a job and when u get the money give it to her and walk away she will say something that will bring u back together!

Answer 3

if ur gonna talk back think but dont say

ur mom is problaly stressed and maybe u r 2!

Answer 4

Let me point out a few Facts, first she is your mother and will remain your mom until she dies. You are going to want a relationship with her in years to come. Second, it is VERY hard being a single parent, she has decided to sacrifice her life in order to take care of you. I am a single parent to 3 kids, I can't remember the last time I went out or did something just for me. Third, when people lash out, verbally etc it is usually because of stress and unfortunately they usually take it out on the ones they love the most.  

Here is a very simple way to improve your relationship, make a point of doing or saying one nice thing every day especially for your Mom. It can be as simple as making her a cup of coffee or giving her a hug before you leave home. Within 30 days this will become a habit, and even better, you will see a change in your mom after only 2 weeks. You are still going to have disagreements, it is part of growing up and becoming an adult, but your disagreements will not be the screaming/yelling wars you are experiencing now. A hidden benefit of this is that your mom will likely end up doing special things for you just to show you how much you mean to her. Try it, what have you got to lose except a few minutes every day for a month, besides nothing else is working at the moment.

Answer 5

This is a tough one! I expect your mum is tired and worried about bills etc.  It's really hard work been a single parent - I should know - my husband left me with three children to support.  We had our ups and downs like you are - but i suggest you can help your mum out more - with housework - or make her a well earned cup of tea, try talking more and do bring up that your not happy, hopefully your mum will listen and you can start to put things right between you. Good luck

Answer 6

dont talk serious to her  youll be out the house in 2 years stick it out it will be over soon

Answer 7

see a psych or school guidance counselor..

Answer 8

when everything is calm, just talk to her about it; words have healing powers. Speak from the heart and try to defuse the situation.

hug her randomly and if she says something like "what are you doing, no get away from me' say "You're getting a d**n hug!' in a false angry voice this depends on the person you give it to, my mum has a good sense of humour but yours might get angrier... i've done this to defuse a few situations hugs and words work wonders. and the next time she hits you, remember "she's always working hard as a single mom..." and it may not seem like it but they have it pretty tough... this will take time though, there's no quick fix

but you can do it :D

GOD bless :D  

Answer 9

Sounds like your mom really needs a break !

Sit her down and tell her that you are too old to be hit and want better communication no more yelling/screaming/fighting. Dont yell from room to room to each other - walk to where the other person is and politely ask a question.

Maybe you can  try getting a part time job after school or weekends/MALL

you can get credits for school

earn some money - treat mom out to a movie ?

gain respect from mom - sees you growing up  a responsible person

have self respect for yourself - becoming self sufficient

There are many part time jobs you could do

ask moms permission first -

TIMES ARE TOUGH  EVERYTHING IS GOING UP IN PRICE