How can I overcome racism??

Question

My family is full of racist hill billies and non-racist. I don't want to end up like my ignorant grandpa, who is racist. I also really like this afro-american guy that goes to my school. He is 19-year-old senior and I am a 16-year-old junior. I've known him since I was a freshman and I want to date him. But, I am nervous about dating for several reasons, like my stepdad wouldn't approve, because he's black and mom, because he's an adult and I am a teenager.

Answer 1

I agree with your mom. At 16 years old a 19 years old is too old for you to be dating. True love will endure a lifetime and will wait just as long. Meaning right know you have more choices and options than you know what to do with. Take your time and explore your options. As far as being racist if you don't date outside of your race, that's nonsense. What you don't want to do is do something out of fear of being perceived as something you are not. It is not racist to love who you are and where you come from. It is racist to hate others because of their race. See the difference?  

Answer 2

You can't.  Get over it.  Date your brother like all you other hillbillies.

Answer 3

Uhmm. I would say not to give a crapp what your family thinks about it. If you like him its your choice. I mean obviously your not racist, than the color of your man shouldnt affect your family, only you. And as for the age difference, Your not that far away from one another, im a freshman 14 and im dating a 17 year old senior. (: And if they really dont approve do it behind there backk aha.  

Answer 4

if ur dad is "black" why would he NOT want u 2 d8 another black person? race is... u can overcome it, by not taking part in it, and "enlightening" ur family about it. (why it's gone, why it's not fair) we're all equal. white, gray, purple, yellow, etc. we all deserve to be treated better. maybe ur family is bias. they think that all blacks are the same. (got the whole bad-boy gansta thing going on) that's not always the case. let them know that.

Answer 5

Just live your life and do what you feel is right.  If the people in your life really love you they should except your choices.



Moving might help as well.  

However seeing that your are only 16, you can't really take that advice because your still under your parents protection and guidance.

Just do what you can to convince them.  Talk to them.

Take changing their minds as a personal challenge.

Good luck,

Answer 6

Move in with the black guy till you become his baby momma and then when he's all done with you you can sleep with his pals.

Answer 7

Okay well first I suggest you hook up with another black guy because he is too old for you.  But as of right now, search and date guys your age of a different race.  Try some blacks that you like and even some latinos.  Because those Puerto Ricans sure are s**y!!!!!!!

Answer 8

he's a 19 year old senior?  it's barely september 2nd!

i think you have other fish to fry right now.

Answer 9

Just be how you feel.  My family is the same way, and I turned out fine.  Don't let them rub off on you, and you'll be fine.

About the guy- you maybe should wait until you are out of your parents' house.  My mom would have kicked me out if I brought home a black guy. Think about going against their wishes.  Is the consequence worth the guy?

Answer 10

I know people who have family members who are racist but they are not racist. You really have go with what your inner gut says. If you like him than you can go for it. Race really does not matter because everyone is human. But I understand that he's 19 and your 16 and I think that is a little too old. But it's your life and you do what you want to do.

Answer 11

About the only thing going against you is age. When you turn 18, do what you want. It's your life. Your parents only make up a small percentage of your overall life so even if you offend them out of your life, it is still your life. You should follow your heart.