How can I overcome this Jealousy?

Question

I can't remember a time that I didn't have these feelings and I have no idea where they come from but I cannot stand it when my boyfriend looks at another girl or talks about one even if it had nothing to do with him fancying her.I've never been cheated on but I have extremely low self esteem and am always doubting that i'm anywhere near good enough for him. I've been the same in all my relationships and it drives me mad so I can imagine how it makes him feel. He's lost patience with me and this makes me worse. I feel desperate and like i'm going mad. I'd do anything to fix this and i'm on a waiting list to see a counselor so I am trying. I'm also on anti depressants. I feel like there's nothing left for me to try. I love him so so much but the only solution that I can think of working is to let him go. He doesn't deserve what I put him through but I can't control it and it's getting worse. I desperately need help with this and any good advice would be so much appreciated. Do you think I should let him go?

Answer 1

NO do not let him go.   I think you have low self esteem and do need to see a counselor and perhaps get off the antidepressants.  Pick yourself up you are worth this relationship.  Relax and let it happen.

Answer 2

dont let him go. why would you need to? you still love him right? then dont let him go just cuz your jealous i know how you feel im a jealous girl too it sucks but i know youll be okay...dont doubt yourself, dont think your not good enough for no body...he's with you for a reason you probably have a great personality and great looks. dont beat yourself up always think positive...never negative...i hope everything works out for you

Answer 3

DO NOT LET HIM GO! i am a veryy jealous girl myself and I know exactly what you mean. you cant let him go though. In fact, my bf is at a freakn party right now because I left him because he made me so mad tonight. I know how you feel. You have to realize that you are a great catch..and that is why he is with you. You are beautiful..dont let other people make you feel like you arent. You have to have confidence. I am telling you..it will work. My heart goes out to you though because I am in your same boat.

Answer 4

Understand this, ur behavior will eventually drive him away....Halle Berry one of the most beautiful and desirable woman in the world has this same problem...and her past three husbands went screaming and running away....The good thing is u recognize that u have a problem, try little steps at a time, when ur find yourself getting in that aggressive mood ask yourself is he doing something or is it my monster starting 2 rise up...u gotta change this behavior or ull be  on a merry go round of men for a long time....

Answer 5

No don't let him go. Sit him down and explain to him this issue and that you are working on getting help. If he loves you as much as you love him he will help you trough this. Taking about this and finding ways to build your self esteem  are also a good way to start while you are on the waiting list.

Answer 6

TRY TO CONTROL YOUR SELF IF HIS WITH YOU AFTER WHAT YOU PUT HIM THRU IS BECAUSE HE CARES TALK TO HIM TELL HOW YOU FEEL AND THE REST IS UP TO YOU IF HE RESPECTS YOU AND LOVES YOU YOU SHOULD NOT FEEL LIKE THAT AND OPEN YOUR EYES AND THINK ABOUT IT REAL GOOD BEFORE ITS TO LATE.

Answer 7

You answered your question, you've got really low self esteem. Sounds like you're on the right track with the meds and professional help.  

Answer 8

I think you are moving in the right direction. Just tell him that even you feel that sometimes you are being hard on him. However, dont tell him about your counseling. Rather, ask him suggestions to overcome your habit. Its not a problem , its just a habit that you need to get rid off. You cannot stop him from looking at other women even you know it doesn't mean anything to him. when you will discuss it with him, he would eventually be a bit reluctant to look at others.

Try to do something in which you think you are good at, gradually you will realize you are not that bad after all.  It should work try working out in a gym or go for a jog or walk. will make yo think better