How can I politely decline?

Question

This girl asked me out and I went out to dinner with her once. While she's a nice person, I'm not interested in dating her. She was really interested and keeps asking if I want to go out again. I feel bad saying no so I've been putting her off and making excuses for why I can't meet up. I know I can't keep doing this and feel bad leading her on. I don't know how to tell her I don't want to date her. I'm not sure if I can be friends with her though because she might expect something more even though I tell her I don't want anything more than friends. How can I let her down nicely without hurting her feelings?

Answer 1

You are going to hurt her feelings no matter what. So just tell her you are not interested.  

Answer 2

well the longer u lead her on the more shell hate you so do it asap just tell her your not interested! believe me its a simple answer but u gotta do something asap

Answer 3

Just tell her you don't think the two of you are compatiable. Then tell her you don't want to go out with her. Don't tell her you just want to be friends cause like you said she will always want more. Distance youself from her after you let her down.  

Answer 4

tell her your relationship is great to you but feels like only good friendship and because she cant expect anything less than  a "love" relationship you guys should part.

Answer 5

just tell her dude..cause she will be living a fantasy if you don't tell her.

tell her you just want time for yourself..and don't want to date anyone at the moment.

there! good luck dude.. :)  

Answer 6

Go straight

Answer 7

Tell her that she's fun and sweet and you really enjoyed your night but you have a lot on your plate right now and simply can't handle a relationship at this point.  I think that makes it seem like it's not her, it's you (even though we know the real answer lol)

Answer 8

Grow a set and tell her that you are not interested in an intimate relationship.  She'll get it.

Answer 9

make it completely clear that u just wana be friends.and that thats all u guys will evr b. theres really no nice way of letting her down because no mattr wat u say she'll feel bad.  

Answer 10

Might be impersonal, but an email or note might do the trick.  Lets you get your thoughts and words together.  You wrote it well above.  Just be honest, it's part of life.  Let her know you think she's nice, but you are just interested in friendship and you would feel uncomfortable if it was anything else.  You can't control how she takes it, but at least the worst she can legitimately say is that you were honest.  Any other course of action will lead to bad feelings and you will be mostly to blame.

Answer 11

do the reagan:  just say no, thank you - not interested.

it will hurt for a second, but both of you will live

continuing is - as you say - implicitly leading her on and may have worse consequences than a twinge of guilt later.

Answer 12

Tell her that you are dating somebody now. If she says "let's get together as friends" say that your gf is the jealous type.

Answer 13

Making her wait is less polite than just letting her know she is not your type.

Answer 14

you could tell her that you don't feel like dating at the moment

Answer 15

No matter what you say, she will be hurt.

Just say no.

Answer 16

I was in the exact same predicament with a guy just this last week. And this is what I did. I went to him in person, and just sat him down and told him that we would be better off just as friends...Also make it clear that it is the best for both of you...say something like, "I would rather tell you this now and not drag our 'dating' out any longer, wasting your time and mine." I used that one...so good luck and just be up front with her...

Answer 17

Either tell her that you are not interested in her in that way or tell her you are not looking to date right now.

Answer 18

Tell her your in a relationship

Answer 19

say you like her but you dont want to date right now, quit being a wooos and tell her

Answer 20

Be upfront with her. She will respect your honesty.

Just respect her feelings and don't be rude.

Answer 21

just tell her how you feel in a nice sort of way :)