How can I prove myself?

Question

I have been with my b/f for 3 years. We took a 10 month break form august of 07 to june 08, We had a bad break up and he left me feeling raw. A week after our breakup I applied for a old navy card. When I called in to verify my info I asked if i could be added to his account. They told me yes. I thought about just doing it to s***w him over because I was hurt but realized that it was HORRIBLY wrong. So updated my info and gave the ok to go ahead and set up my account. Come to find out they added me to his account anyway. I would have never known this but someone tried to apply for a credit card in his name so he was alerted and he pulled his credit report which showed the old navy account. He is pissed at me and won't even talk to me because he thinks that I did this intentionally. He called ON and they told him that the information was updated to be my information. SO it looks like i totally tried to commit fraud but it was a total misunderstanding. If I had have known i was on his account and not my own I would have totally corrected asap. He has been having some hard times latley and with this information he thinks I am trying to s***w him over. We have had the most amazing relationship up until this point. I have lied to him in the past but all that was cleared up. Naturally he can only go on the evidence that he has. Which makes me look like I did this intentionaly. Anyways...what I am asking is...is there anything I can do to reconcile things. I'm working on paying off the total balance. I have given him complete access to all of my financial records to show that I have nothing to hide and I did nothing wrong. He won't even speak to me at this point. He is hurt because he thinks I did this...but by god i would go to any measure matter of fact i have gone to any measure to make sure that he is nothing but loved and respected by me. what can i do to ensure him that this was a mistake and I would never do something like this to him? I even found out that he was planning to propose on anniversary in november? If he felt that i was the person he wanted to spend his life with then how could he think that I would do something like this??

Answer 1

This is a tough one.  If you honestly did all of this by mistake and he won't talk to you I would try sending him an e-mail.  He probably still has feelings for you but if he doesn't know what happened he just thinks you tried to s***w him over.  I say send him an e-mail because it will give you a chance to explain yourself.  If he still has any feelings for you at all he is still going to read it.  Maybe then ( a real big maybe) he will talk to you.

Answer 2

It is quite obvious that he thinks you could do this because you did it.  You stole his identity and that isn't good.  

Answer 3

you DID do it to spite him & now that you are back with him, you dont want him to know so you are making it look so innocent

Answer 4

Why couldn't you get the company to send a letter to you correcting the problem and then he would see that it wasn't your intention but the companies error.

Answer 5

start going to church