How can I....?

Question

make my personality stand out more?

At home I am a very outgoing, bubbly goofball, ....but at school my personality just seems to get lost in the mix.

I end up being very reserved, not too much of a conversationalist, and always doing nice things for people(sometimes to my disadvantage) just to get people to remember I'm there, (even though I like doing nice things in general, but this is pushing it)....

Help?!

*Thanks*

Answer 1

If you look at it this way, that kind of IS your personality.

I was that way in high school, and maybe stayed that way through college and now in my adult life.  

People will probably start to wonder about you and want to get to know you better, which is an opportunity to show them your outgoing side.  Word will spread about that.  You wouldn't have to do anything, your personality would be doing the work for you.

JUST CONTINUE TO BE YOU.

Answer 2

When you´re at home you are a big fish in a little puddle while at school you are one of a crowd. This is probably a phase you are going through but if you are seriously concerned about it then try to imagine yourself at home and act as if you were there

Answer 3

maybe it's an acceptances thing if you tend to go out of your way to help someone out you could be looking to be accepted

you know your accepted at home among friends.. but school is so large and full of so many judgements and opinons that it's hard to feel accepted...

that is my best guess here sweetie!  if you want to really stand out more take educated social risks!

Answer 4

Help for what? for being "normal"?

Answer 5

I know exactly where your coming from. I'm in the same position, I just lost two really good friends & went into a really large group ( 15 people)  that i don't know well because of another friend. & i cant seem to talk properly ( i stutter) over analyze everything, think constantly of what the situation might turn into if i do something stupid & i keep thinking of things to talk about because I just go blank & cant respond. its horrible. I never ever have been like this until recently. & I've realized that at home im so good @ everything its so weird. I just hope this is a phase.

just know that your not alone.

Answer 6

At home you are more comfortable, so you are more inclined to be yourself, whereas in school you are more reserved - maybe because of some past experience with others.  I think that is ok.  What you would have to watch out for is to make sure that if you do something for others that it is not to please them(I have been a pleaser).  It is not easy to tell people no when they ask you for something, I know that--but realize that those who care about you will accept it when you tell them no because you can't do something for them--they will not suddenly not love you.  Those who turn their backs at you for doing that, are those who took advantage of you.  In the long run, changing your habit of doing for others will also show who your true friends are.  It took me a very long time to get to that point where I was comfortable with saying no, but that is pretty much the only thing you can tell those who constantly expect from you and it is the only thing you can tell yourself when you see that you are about to fall in that trap again.....Good luck