How can I raise my baby to be an obedient, kind, smart and respectful person?

Question

My daughter is one-year old. I think she is an angel right now, but I am just worried later on. I know how it is like cause I was once a dis-obedient child.

Answer 1

By being an obedient, kind, smart and respectful person yourself. Set the example for her.

Answer 2

The absolute best way is to lead by example.  Its really as simple as that.  Being responsible for his/her own actions is also a very important part.  It goes hand in hand with all those other characteristics you listed.  Also, you need to be an authority figure in babies life, not a "friend".  Be a parent.  That's another important part.  Make rules and stick to them.

Answer 3

If you want her to be obedient punish her when she does something wrong,and while shes little reward her for doing nice things and really good behaviors.

For her to be smart for ten minutes every day or for about an hour a week,listen to mot's art. Its proven that it helps their brains function well and makes them brighter.

it's better to do it at an early age.    

Answer 4

It's a really tough fence to be on.  You need to show discpline and never, ever stray from the rules - trust me.  There needs to be an award system, but also you need to implement a punishment as in taking away a special treat such as t.v. or computer - trust me.  once you have your child's respect she will actually feel much freer to expore her intelligence rather than being a trouble maker.

Answer 5

good question..........

Answer 6

I would say yo be consistent and firm but loving.  If you have rules and behavior that you expect, then stick with that and let them know that anything else is unacceptable and that there will be consequences.  Also, people tend to give respect if they are given it, so show them what to do.  They will learn by example and if you lead, they will follow.

Answer 7

ummm... idk cuz therez no kidz or people like that any more in thiz world... ha good luck

Answer 8

Discipline with consistency. Explain what they've done wrong. Then explain how they can do right.

This gives them guidelines on how to behave.

Answer 9

Spank her

Answer 10

Create a good attachment & trust bond with her, now.  Let her know by your behavior with her that you & she are on this journey together, that you are on her side, that you've got her back, that she can trust you to be a kind, gentle, encouraging teacher, that you trust her to be a good person who desires to do right, but who might make mistakes along the way.  

Assume for yourself & help her to believe that she *is* a polite, kind, smart & respectful person.  

With that kind of relationship & belief as a foundation, any mistakes that she does make will be something that you both tackle & learn from together.  

Answer 11

spank the c**p ot of her

Answer 12

If the answer was simple to explain in this block of space, then it would be easy.  It's not... it's hard, it is so hard it is beyond hard.  This is the utopia of every parent's dream but it is so hard to achieve.

Even if you do everything right, there are so many factors that could influence the outcome.

Here are my main ideas;

1.  Be respectful to her.  Listen to her, allow her to feel her feelings even if they seem unreasonable to you.  You do not have to permit wrong behaviours but you can allow her to feel her own emotions and try to understand them.  

2.  Kindness is taught by example and by instruction.  Allow her to interact with other kids, people, pets etc and when she invariably will behave unkindly, tell her, no, that is not kind, this is how we do it... show her.  

3.  Smart is kind of a biased opinion but the best way to develop her mind is to challenge her.  Don't encourage a lot of inane TV watching.  Get out with her,read to her, take her to the library, describe scenes to her, go to the museum ( children's if you can), play all types of music, ask her a lot of questions and encourage her to think of answers before you tell her.  When my 4 yo asks how to you spell DOG, I ask her what sound do you think it starts with.... then she starts thinking on her own.

4.  Obediance is tricky.  On one hand, you want your child to immediately comply with your instructions, particularly if there is danger.  On the other hand, to teach blind obediance to authority also opens up obediance to others who may cause harm.  Imagine a trusted adult who might use their authority to take advantage of her.  And also imagine her as an adult woman who seeks a man to tell her what to do with her life.  So you want her to be assertive and independant and able to make decisions but also to be obediant to you.  :0  Tough one!  I try to make certain rules for my kids that are unbreakable and other guidelines that are negotiable.  They catch on pretty fast.

Hope that helps.  It was a very thought provoking question!  

Answer 13

Modeling the desired behavior is the best way to teach a child. Children are ALWAYS watching even when you think they are not. They will do as you do more often then they will do what you say if you are not behaving in the same manor. Always follow through with a punishment. Don't threaten if you can not make good on what you say. And there is no need to hit. All this will do is make your child hit. If you are consistent and always act the way you want them to act, and use timeouts from a young age. They will be OK. All kids misbehave and are a little mouthy but you are the adult and can decide what battles to pick. If you choose to pick a battle, do not back down. Once you do this, you are done. Raising kids is tough. It's not easy to always be consistent, but you have to. If kids get use to this at a young age it is much easier then to start when they are older. My two year old puts himself in time-out. It is one minute per year. If they are two, 2 minutes, 3 =3 minutes and so on.

All you can do is your best and if you do this and your kids go bad then at least you know you did what you could. Good luck to you.

Answer 14

The best way to teach her is by example.  All little ones are different though.  

And just some words of encouragement: She will hit the terrible two/threes.  your angel may change what seems like overnight.  But her behavior is in now way a relflection of you as a mom or a sign as to how she will be later in life

Answer 15

Motzart

Learning games

Your own influential interest in books

Straight up talking about feelings and honestly let your child know that hurting someone isn't right

Showing enthusiasm to learn and teaching proper habits; "Good question! Let's find the answer to that!"

Getting your child involved in some sort of talent, i.e. dancing, drums, violin (instills musical talent as well as physical exercise interest)

Love your child and don't make them fear you, but instead be disappointed in themselves more upsetting you so that they won't want to again. Love and kindness is the consistency.

Answer 16

obedience: have rules and boundaries and be as consistent as possible in how you discipline.  Don't fall in the trap of telling her no about the same thing over and over.  She is old enough to understand, she understands all kinds of things now, and can be taught to respect boundaries.  One or two warnings maximum, then you have to do something.  When they don't listen, you have to follow through on your discipline plan and that takes energy.  Also, if she ever whines or cries for something, DON'T give it to her, even if you were about to give it to her anyway.  Wait until she isn't whining or crying to give her stuff.

kind: teach this by example and teach it directly.  Create opportunities daily for her to share and put others (or a family pet) first.  I have my kids make each others beds, or put each others dishes or clothes away, whatever I can think of.  Tell her how important it is to you that she is kind to others and how happy it makes you.  Then, in daily life, use a calm, sweet tone of voice.  Praise her for doing kind things.  Do kind things together.  We took flowers to elderly women this spring and my daughter has never forgotten.  She is still thinking of other people that we can do things for because she enjoyed the flower experience.  It inspires me.

smart:  read to your daughter everyday.  Talk to her whenever she tries to talk or babble.  Teach her as many words as you can.  Take her on lots of feild trips and provide her chances to play with other children that are being raised by parents with similar parenting philosophy to your own.  She can learn vocabulary long before she talks.  See how small or nonexistent you can make the influence of TV in her life.  Teach her to read before she starts school.  Libraries and bookstores have books on how to go about teaching reading to young children that are very helpful.    

respectful: have zero-tolerance for selfish, defiant, aggressive, and deceptive behavior.  Make sure there is always a consequence for these things, if you give them multiple chances on these items, your child will take them!  If they know there are consequences, they will have more respect for you and act badly much less often.  I promise!

Selfish (refusing to share, bragging, having to be first, best, or temper tantrums),

Defiant (saying "no" to you, breaking same rule repeatedly, making demanding requests of an adult)

Aggressive (hitting, biting, calling names, damaging things on purpose, threatening to hit a parent, bullying)

Deceptive behavior (lying to avoid responsibility for misbehavior, stealing)