How can I raise my confidence and be more outgoing around others?

Question

When I am with myself or people that I know, I am extremley confident and outgoing, however at my new school, which I actually started this year, I am still rather timid. I just feel really akward, and I come off as really shy. What can I do to be myself, and not worry that I will seem like a loser. I am just really struggling with being myself around people at my school, who are mostly really mean. I feel like everyone hates me, but i am actually really nice, somewhat stylish, smart, and not horrible looking. I didn't mean to sound cocky, but i don't think the reason I feel this way is because of my looks. I still haven't made great friends, so when I am in an opportunity like a group project with someone, what are some tips to make a friendship? thanks.

Answer 1

Just think "I don't care what these people care about me" and then you'll be fine.

Answer 2

go watch the movie "the Secret" it really helps.

Answer 3

real friendships take time. If you're around somebody you like, just break the ice by saying hello...did you do the homework, i need help on this...something like that. as time progresses, there's no doubt that you'll feel more comfortable, and then you could start talking about personal things like how their weekeend went, what they like to do, etc.

Just keep it flowing smoothly with the topics and eventually you'll find something in common with them,which is the key!

Answer 4

Dear Writer,

          I used to have the same problem/issue as you my friend. What I did to get out of this mess is I started to listen to what some people were talking about and if they were talking about something I know I would make an attempt to commune with them. As long as you think someone will be cool with you talking to them than you have a 90% chance of becoming friends with them. I am in ASB for my school and I didn't have one friend in that class, but I stopped and listened to what some people in that class like to do and now I am good friends with a lot of people and I go out to lunch with them because I got to know who they were. It takes a lot of gust and courage to step up and take action but I was always one that was somewhat shy around "students" at school. I have a lot of confidence that you will take my advise. Remember though, if you think that person does bad things outside of school or in school than your instinct should be to stay away from that person and find students that like to things with you or same things as you do. Well that's all I can pretty much say, if you need anymore help than you can just send me a email. Remember have 110% confidence in yourself or you will not accomplish your goals in life.

                                     Sincerely,

                                              rey1991boo