How can I respond to this?

Question

I'm 16 this year, and all my life i've never wanted kids. I used to play with dolls when I was little, but still never wanted a family of my own.

Me and one of my friends we're on the topic of families and I told him that I never wanted kids myself and he reacted by saying that i'm still a little girl and that ALL real women want to have children.

I didn't know how to react.. I know it's not fair and this happened earlier today. I'm not sure whether taking it as an insult is too far either. I could still respond tomorrow but I need ideas what I can say to him, cause I feel like he just completely overpowered me..

Answer 1

I wouldnt be offended but I'd look at him a little differently.

You're not a real woman because you dont want kids? that sounds stupid!

Answer 2

You're 16, already you know what right and whats wrong. Your still young and no not even all grown women want kids. Tell him that what he said was immature and how would he know want ALL women want? Obliviously he a boy a LITTLE boy at that. Don't mind people like him, There are lots more to deal with just like him.  

Answer 3

Hi, How Are You?

OMG - That is SO untrue.  I cannot BELIEVE he said that.  You don't even have to be sure yet - you're 16 years old!! You have your WHOLE LIFE ahead of you, and you don't need to make any decisions yet.  It's entirely your choice weather or not you want children.  

As for the response, say simply this:

"Well what does that make me then? A fake woman?  I don't think so.  And it's MY personal issue, so it's MY personal choice."

I used to feel so looked-down-upon because I'm petite - Apparently, to some 'big is now the new beautiful'.  But you know what?  I don't let it get me down, cause I know that beauty comes in MANY different forms, whether you are big, petite, tall, short, the list goes on.  

I know you are thinking this is irrelevant, but it's not - cause if you know something isn't true, then why let people tell you the lies?  Don't let him get to you - he's not right.  Tell him he's wrong - and what does he know?  

And anyway, he's a guy... It worries me slightly that he thinks he knows what WOMEN apparently 'want'...

..That is, he THINKS he knows, but he DOESN'T.

Good luck, and remember, YOU are right here, and don't let anyone tell you any different.  

Hope I Helped!

Love From Sakura x ^_^

Answer 4

He's not a woman, so he has no idea what he's talking about. There's no reason why he should've lashed out at you like that. You want what you want. I feel like if he were mature, he could've either said he didn't agree with you or kept his opinions to himself. He shouldn't judge you that harshly.

As to what to do, I'd just ignore it. If the next time he says something like that and makes you uncomfortable, tell him that you didn't really ask for his opinion. Say that he shouldn't belittle your feelings just b/c he thinks they're wrong. But if you want to retaliate tomorrow, don't wait until the next time.

Good luck.

Answer 5

Heres your response

How would you know waht real women want?

Answer 6

Tell him to shut his face. why at 16, would you want to throw away the rest of your teenage years by having to take care of a child? That being said, do U never want children? Or do u want children, just not now?