How can I settle down and relax? I'm still upset over what happened today?

Question

Okay so ive been upset since earlier today about something. I posted a question about it earlier. I just cant seem to get settled down because I keep thinking about it. I wasnt even able to eat my dinner because of it. My stomach is in knots even and I have a headache from crying.

I found out that my mom is playing her headgames again. This time shes using me to get sympathy from my aunt and anyone else she can gossip to. She has never done this before and shes using an excuse because I dropped out of HS and its because my dad always sticks up for me. Claiming that hes just a "friend" and not a "parent" which is very untrue and if you ask anyone outside of my family whos talked to me will say that "im very well mannered and very mature" for my age. She plays games where she tries to get people against my father and lately hes been wise to her and she cant take it. Shes like best friends with my aunt and they gossip about everything. Right along shes been telling her my family problems. My dad isnt in very good health and doesnt need his own sister against him if he were to die. Lately my aunt has been nit picking on my brother about things because my mom has her fooled into thinkin were selfish little brats who dont care about anyone else but ourselves. I notice everytime im around my aunt, she never says anything to me though which is strange! Its like my mom has her fooled into thinking that ill come back and tell my dad if she tells me things. My dad cannot have stress because he has CHF and when im doing great, my mom will start up and wanna argue.

But yeah, my question I posted is from here: http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AsaEVqoPyaTUsYin7dnQjpfsy6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20080901180710AApoBCf

That will tell you more info and more specific info. My nerves are all wound up from this! I was even crying when I found out. I cant believe my own mother is using me for attention. She was bringing things up that have happened 5 years ago! I havent done anything bad lately at all for her to even bring up such a convo with my aunt.

How can I calm down and relax?

Answer 1

If you are old enough to quit school, I assume you are old enough to work. Get a job. Get out of the house. Get your GED. Focus on yourself and doing what you need to do to become independent. In a year or two, you can move out on your own. If you are smart, you'll be ready. Unfortunately, if your Dad has CHF, he may not be around for too much longer.Spend as much time with him as possible, but try to keep your issues you are having with your Mom to a minimum. He doesn't need the stress or the guilt. You know, It's not too late to go back to school. Your Mom is wrong to gossip about you behind your back, but you really will regret quitting school someday. I know cause I did it. I missed my prom, time with friends, never got a class ring. Even if you don't go back to school. get your GED and a job and show everyone what a mature smart young lady you are.

Answer 2

Thomas youre almost 17 years old, its about time that you started standing up for yourself and saying something to your mother.

Firstly, let her know when she is wrong about something.  Every time that she brings a subject up and its about you or your problems and it is inaccurate, correct her in front of her friend.  Secondly, when your mother starts criticising anything that you do, stand up to her and say that you are doing the best that you can and it might be good if you had more role-models around the house, etc.

You are old enough now to start becoming an adult and an adult needs to be able to reason and explain situations to other people.  Just go for it mate.

Answer 3

Well if your parents dont live together move in with your dad. Its what i did. Though my mum wasnt the problem i just got into to many physical fights with my brother so chose to move out. Now ive never been closer to my brother so it will work for your mum most likely. Even if your parents do live together tell your mum youre moving out and stay at a friends place for a few days. Call her and tell her why you moved out and she will stop.