How can I stop being angry at my mom?

Question

I am a Christian, but still am very angry and disgusted with my mom. She adopted me when I was 5, was never married. Has always treated me like a friend and not like a child. I am a victim of emotional incest, per my therapist. I married the man of my dreams about a year ago, and have a baby. Since my marriage she has stopped at nothing to ruin my marriage and run my husband off, and she succeeded. She is very manipulative and tried to always get my husband, son, and myself to live with her always. She would cry and thrown tantrums also. It was a struggle to get her to watch my baby, when my husband and I wanted to have dinner together or go on vacation. She tagged along on my honeymoon, and my husband and I only got 1-2 spare dinners/fun ship events in because she horned her way in. If I told her I wanted to go on a weekend trip with him she would tell me "oh, granny and I have been wanting to go, let me see hotel pricing and pack my bags, don't forget the baby". I can't stand her, and wish she would leave me the heck alone. However ,I have no money to move out.

Answer 1

OMG. Ok why did you move in with her? And am I right in believing you are no longer with your husband? I would do any thing in this world to get away from her, She sounds very jealous of you and what you had. She didn't have that! If you aren't any longer with your husband and want to be call him, and talk to him. But most importantly is get out! What about your babys other grandparents can they help you. Good Luck you have a lot on your plate.

Answer 2

just  tell them

Answer 3

Wow, I Dont Know x

Answer 4

Get money/job...move away decide if you want to give an address. That's it. Be independent. A lot has to do with your still sucking on her teat for a living. Until you are your own person, you will be in this situation. You need to grow up and get some independence. One does not simply get independence, they earn it. She obviously cares for you in a different way...you made wrong choices along the way. Now you you have a kid and no way to support it. That means you have to work twice as hard to break free. She probably helped pay for the honeymoon (is why  you agreed to have her come along i'm thinking)....You are way to dependent. The alternative is to find a man...but then you are likely to wind up in the same situation...So, work on yourself to get...o out of thattherwise...enjoy it as much as you can.

Take Care

Answer 5

While it is hard to hear a lot of this is your fault, you did not have to let her go with you on your honeymoon you could have not told her were you were going and just went. When you moved in with her that was a huge mistake and if your husband really loved you he would not have left you but took you with him. I am sorry but you need to get out and become a adult, but I am sure your therapist as told you all this and if they didn't fire them and find a new one. The only way you will not be angry at your mom is when you stand up for your self.

Answer 6

Sit her down and tell her your feelings. I know she will will not be happy about it , but you need to tell her to be able to move on with your life. talk to your pastor at your church if you feel comfortable with it. Try to get her involved with activities in the church. She sounds like she is lonely and insecure. Only you can take control of your life and you need to for the sake of your child.  Do you have any girlfriends hat you could share a home with? Does the father want to reconcile? You do have options. I will pray for you and hope you find the answer. God helps those who help themselves.  

Answer 7

You can't complain about someone you are living off of. Christianity doesn't have a thing to do with it.  

Answer 8

u idiot

dont ever speak in front of her again

iam strictly saying it to u don`t ever say any word to her again

i dont read any on the information u rite

i just got angry by reading the question u wrote

i am really feel sorry for her

if i was their i surely would give u a slap

don`t make it personal

but respect her and care of her

shes ur mother she cares for u and loves u

what ever she say just say yes wid a head down..........

okay

remember u will be a father /mother in future

so what u do so will face it

try be honest to u