How can I stop being easily swayed by the opinions of others?

Question

When I think something and someone else else thinks the complete opposite, it won't be hard for me to be swayed by their opinion.

How can I stop this?

Answer 1

'cus you ask them more than you answer to their questions.

How about tweaking your form of question a bit? for example, instead of asking ppl 'Hey, do you think my head is too big??', how about asking them 'How do you see ppl with big heads?'

What I'm trying to point out here is the shift of the point of view. If you ask questions 'I' or 'Me' in it, it means you are setting up for their judgment., in other words.. you ask them to judge you or shake your opinions.

a little more thinking process is needed  

Answer 2

Hi there, by developing a strong sense of your own identity is the answer, having more confidence and self esteem will all help.  I have a website that deals with how to develop these thing you might find useful.

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good luck

Answer 3

Ironically enough, someone answering this question may well lead to them doing the very thing you dont want them to do - to sway your ideas with their own opinions.

... but apart from that.. well all I can say is gather the facts and make a decision on your own. If their facts cant stand up against yours, well then your point is stronger, and you are more than welcome to keep to it.  

Answer 4

I'm in this position too. But I'm getting ahead of it...

First of all, we are too preoccupied with their opinions:P.... We give too much attention to other persons.

My hot question was why???????

And the hard answer is that I'm still a child looking to be irresponsible and waiting for my mom to make things right.

That's why we give too much importance to others' opinions. We wait for the solution. We don't want to create the solution. Because we can't. Because we are babies. Because we are not responsible for our choices. Because we cannot choose. Others have chosen for us always. We got used to it.

What can be done?

Well, the big problem is that ur brain is in your control now. Whatever objective u choose, the brain will go for it.... Every single choice is now ur responsibility. U can choose right, and you can choose wrong...

U cannot escape this freedom. If you choose not to choose, you still choose. And the consequences will follow, and they will be you effects, not others' as it may seem....And you will live ur consequences.

Accept more and more this responsibility as I did. It is beautiful in the end. Because when u know u r free, u will reevaluate everything in close detail. U will hear opinions, but u will not listen literally to those opinions. They may be right. But they may be wrong. And if they are wrong, they will not take the consequences upon them. So of course you will be careful more and more. And of course others' opinions will become just.... opinions...

In the end ur brain waits for your opinion... So be very careful what u choose...

But not to careful, because u will miss the moment if u delay tooooooo much... Trust me I know the feeling.. I'm a libra:))))))))

Ps. Well, in the same time, opportunities will always come again.. so it's not a big deal if you lose one...:P

Answer 5

Ignore them.