How can I stop being irrationally jealous about everything?

Question

I know this isn't something that I can fix quickly and easily, but I really want to do something about it. Are there any first steps I can take or something?

Answer 1

when you start feeling like you're getting irrational then try and catch yourself and reverse it. even if what you're saying you don't believe, say it anyways. it'll start coming naturally later.

i hope that makes sense?

Answer 2

Find a book about Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. It uses a lot of techniques to control emotions, such as:

Ask yourself- will this matter to me in one year?

How bad is this on a scale of 1-100 (100 being life threatening, loss of a family member etc)

Good luck!

Answer 3

If I tell you that it is an ugly disease that harms you, shows on your face and in your actions, will you listen and stop behaving with jealous issues prevailing on your mind?

You need to look within yourself and discover the beautiful things that you offer yourself and others, appreciate, respect and have confidence in who and what you are.  Self confidence is a beautiful and healthy face and attracts good people. You are responsible and accountable for one person "you" and you reap the rewards of your own behavior, actions and happiness.  

I was once told that "I was jealous" by my cheating husband.  At the time he was displaying all the careless, secretive symptoms but because I hadn't caught him in the act, he tormented me with offensive and defensive behavior.  When the truth caught up with him, he still wanted to fault me that I was jealous and I was responsible for his cheating. RIGHT, I told him immediately that jealousy is "when I want something that someone else has" and that's not our issues.  Our issues are, "that someone is cheating, deceptive and taking away something that is mine, causing me to react to actions that are upsetting.  Then I told him that I don't want him in my life and therefor there is no jealousy, just a very mad wife. My opinion was that his lover can have him and his deceptive behavior because I deserve better, expect to be treated better and I will get better and I know the difference.

Sometimes people's actions cause us to react and it is upsetting, this is different than you wanting something someone else has and that is upsetting you.

Hopefully the things you want, you will provide for yourself with the confidence that you deserve it and are capable of offering it to yourself and earn the respect of others for achieving your own goals

Good Luck To You.