How can I stop comparing myself to other girls?

Question

Every single time I see a girl who looks good I get insecure.

For example, today I saw my ex boyfriend's new girl at the movies. We are friends, so she came to hug me and we talked. I just kept staring at her, she was so d**n beautiful. she has this perfect face, perfect hair and beautiful teeth, which I don't. she is so cheerful and confident.. and I'm talking about that confidence that comes from within, not arrogance. I got so jealous and I can't stop thinking about how much better than me she is.

How can I stop this?

Answer 1

Just remember that how other people look isn't important.  You don't need to compare yourself to another girl to see how you really are.  You're a beautiful, unique person, no matter how you stand up when compared to someone else.

Answer 2

I don't think you can stop the comparison, it is a natural thing to do. What you can stop is the insecurities that come along with the comparisons. In order to do that you must re-gain confidence in yourself which is easier said than done.

Answer 3

You have to love yourself.  She may feel the same way about you.  We all have things we would like to change about our selves but that kind of confidence has to come from you loving yourself and knowing that you are beautiful.  So start by looking in the mirror every morning and telling yourself that  you love yourself and that you are beautiful.  Do it everyday.  Give yourself a wink and have a wonderful day.  

Answer 4

Who says she's beautiful? What someone might find attractive might be ugly to someone else. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. You might think she looks beautiful, but that doesn't mean everyone else thinks so.  

Answer 5

I had this problem. I would always compare myself to others and feel terrible about it. If I catch myself doing it, instead of thinking what they have or can do I think about what I have and can do.  

Answer 6

The best way is to focus on what you like about yourself.  Do you have a cute @ss?  Great b***s?  Lovely legs?  Everyone has some good features!  Focus on those and ignore the features you think are less appealing.

I'd bet my house that your 'beautiful' friend dislikes some things about herself.  We all do.  But the way to feel confident is to keep thinking about how cute your cute features are.  And bear in mind that those are the features everyone will be noticing!  Most people focus on the things they like looking at (i.e. your good points) rather than on things that aren't so perfect.

Answer 7

Get a s*x change... there really is no other way.

I think it's part of being a girl.

Answer 8

Yeah, I know what you mean, I always seem to compare myself to other people...and it sucks! So I dont know, I guess the best way to stop it is to just be happy with yourself, and find something thats good and unique about you...but Its hard to do :/