How can I stop eating when I'm full, when my mom makes me eat everything on my plate?

Question

I'm 16 and I still live with my parents. My dad's very thin & always has been, and my mom is morbidly obese & always has been. She's always trying to make my dad eat because she thinks he's anorexic (he's not, he's just not addicted to food like she is). He doesn't eat when he's not hungry and if he is hungry, he only eats until he's full.

I know this is the right way to eat if you want to be slim, and I try my best to learn from his example and stop when I'm full. My mom always nags me and nags me to eat everything on my plate, though (and often it's a BIG portion of high calorie food). If I don't eat everything she yells at me and sulks for the whole evening. She makes me eat because when I was like 6 I was really picky about food and barely ate anything at all. Now though, I'm really greedy and I'll just eat everything I can see if I don't stop myself! I really want to change my habits before I end up like my mom :/

How do I do it? Even when I ask for healthy food, she gives me SO MUCH healthy food & puts it in a fattening sauce or w/e so that it's just the same as if I ate a normal sized pizza or something like that XD

Answer 1

Don't use diet pills or anything.

But, keep regularly excersising. And also, just say, "Mom, can I get my food?" And if she says yes, you can put a good amount on your plate. If she says no, sit her down without your dad and just tell her, you want to stay healthy and you want the right portions and you want vitamins and minerals so you can live long and eat right. If she doesn't understand, you can take this to new levels because that's wrong of her. Go to your guidance consueler at school and tell him/her your situation. And if you don't know/like your guidance consueler, try a teacher who's really close to you, an aunt or uncle, your grandmother or grandfather. Tell them and see what they can do. Maybe if another adult talks to her, she'll realize it.

Or~ you could possibly talk to your dad about it. Maybe he feels the same. If he did, you and he could talk to her. Maybe your dad could start preparing healthier meals. And maybe he could start serving the meals. If he can't prepare them, maybe he can just put the portions on the plates.

Good luck to you!

Answer 2

my mom kept food from me ;(

Answer 3

Basically, don't put so much on your plate, or ask you mom not too. When your full stop even if there is stuff on your plate and say, I can't eat anymore. Then throw away whatever is left and leave the room. That way your mom can't nag you. And if she does just say, I can't eat. And turn the other cheek. That's how i got my grandmother to stop doing that.

Answer 4

just tell her,that ur 16 now and u eat what u want when u want.

Answer 5

Simple in theory: get less on your plate.

You need to find a way to start serving yourself instead of your mother preparing your plate for you. You may be able to justify it by saying 'I don't want to eat too much, I'll come back for more food if this isn't enough'.

Also, your father has somehow managed to stay thin, so he may be able to help you deal with this situation.  

Answer 6

You just need to be firm and tell her that food does not equal love and if she continues to take it personally that you don't want to eat unhealthy amounts of unhealthy food, then that's her problem. You're going to have to stand up for yourself in order to not end up like your mom. It almost seems like she's trying to make you be fat like her! Why would a parent do that?

Edit: Show her that a person's stomach is the size of two fists put together. That's the amount of food you should be eating and if she doesn't believe you she can look it up in a medical handbook or online.

Answer 7

Does she watch you eat? Put a ziplock bag on your lap & throw the food in there. Actually, see if you can get real anorexics to tell you what they do. This way you can have a balanced diet by doing a little bit of what they do. I don't mean the throw up part I mean the part where they can hide that they haven't eated it all. The are master's at doing this. Then as you get older you won't be under her careful watch. She has the opposite of anorexia. My mother was overweight too so I know there are issues that come with it. I think you are going to be fine cause you have such a good mind. I agree with you 100%.

Answer 8

tell your mum you want to see a dietician and take her with you..

also speak to your dad about it, it seems like he will understand..

another thing to do is go buy yourself a smaller plate and tell her you will only eat whats on that and it cant be piled up. she has to understand what she is doing to you is as bad as say giving you cigarettes, except obesity will show side effects way before smoking will.. obesity is now up there with smoking as the top killers in western nations - you may be her daughter but you can also educate her.

Answer 9

You are 16 now.  It's time to grow up a little bit.  First of all, I wouldn't worry about being thin at this point, but if you are full, then don't eat anymore.  Only take what you think you can eat, and if you are still hungry, then get more.  If your mom tells you to clean your plate, tell her that you are no longer hungry and you're finished.  Let her go through her yelling and sulking.  If you cave and eat the food, then she will continue to yell and sulk because she knows it will achieve the desired result.  Clean up your dishes and find another activity.  Sometimes you do have to treat parents like kids.

P.S.- Please don't allow your mom's health issues to affect your relationship with food.  If you feel like you may be heading down an unhealthy path, such as exercising too much or eating too much or denying yourself food, then talk to a counselor at school immediately or your doctor.

Answer 10

Sit down with your  mom and explain this to her!