How can I stop getting so stressed?

Question

Any suggestions on how to relax and unwind?

Thanks

Answer 1

Besides medication , Exercise followed by yoga is your best bet.  Also deep slow breathing exercises.

Answer 2

Yoga, listening to music, hanging out with friends, watching funny movies or movies of your preferred genre, bubble baths and anything else that seems fun!

Answer 3

I find just being asleep and getting a good nights sleep helps stress and also going on a holiday helps

Answer 4

See stress treatments, at ezy build, below, in section 42. A certain level of stress is unavoidable, in modern society, so it is a good idea to develop effective coping methods. For others, or yourself: A massage (at least neck and shoulders) with jasmine, lavender, juniper, and/or bergamot, or German chamomile essential oils added to the massage oil, and to a warm bath, preferably beforehand, to help make any tension knots and muscles more pliant (they may only want, say, a juniper and/or bergamot and/or sandalwood mix: check first). I am aware of advice that strong heat, applied to essential oils can damage them, and so I would not use a diffuser.

Also consider anise, basil, bay, eucalyptus,  peppermint, rose, and thyme. Place some pieces of rock salt in a small vial, then add a few drops of the oil of your choice (the rock salt absorbs the oil and is  less risky to carry around than a bottle of oil). Open the vial and breathe in the scent whenever you need a quick stress release.  See if they will do long, stretching yoga exercises, or t'ai chi with you (see section 2, at ezy build, below).      

Practise daily, one of the relaxation techniques on pages 2, 11, 2c, or 2i; whichever works best for you, but the mindfulness breathing for 15 - 20 mns is ideal, although the progressive muscle relaxation can be learned quickly, and takes only several minutes, if pressed for time. Repeat: "I feel calm" and/or "I can handle this."  Employ the EFT version for use in public, for which you can reasonably claim that you have a headache, as you massage/tap your temples, but it may be advisable to restrict yourself to subvocalising (saying it to yourself, in your mind, not aloud). Section 53, and pages 2, 2.q and 2.o refer. "Even though I sometimes suffer from stress, I deeply and completely accept myself".  

(The following is a variant of EMDR: Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing  therapy, which has been used successfully for those people suffering from Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, insomnia, and anxiety: it is easily learned, quick to use, yet can be very effective. It is easy to be dismissive of such a seemingly unusual technique, but give it a good tryout, for at least a few weeks, to see if it is effective in your case.).              

                    Prior to using either of the methods in the above paragraph, first sit comfortably, and take a deep breath. Then, without moving your head, move your eyes from the left, to the right, and back again, taking around a second to do so (say: "a thousand and one": this takes approximately a second). Repeat this procedure (without the words, although you can count, subvocally, if you like) 20 times. Then close your eyes and relax. Become aware of any tension or discomfort you feel.                        

                 Then open your eyes, and take another deep breath, and repeat step one, closing your eyes, and relaxing afterwards, in the same manner. Then, repeat the procedure one last time. Some people may find that this is all they need do.   With experience, you may find that you can practise this in public, with your eyes closed, which greatly widens the window of opportunity for its use, and avoids attracting unwanted attention.              

                    I have found that the 2 - 3 minutes spent using the EMDR markedly reduces distractions to the relaxation process, and is repaid many times over. With experience, you may find that you can practise this in public, with your eyes closed, which greatly widens the window of opportunity for its use, and avoids attracting unwanted attention.

     You can also multitask, using the gazing technique, as you walk/jog or exercise, by focusing on a distant object, or just focus awareness on how each step feels, noting any thoughts which flash across your mind, without pursuing any particular train of thought, just gently redirect your focus to the task at hand.              

                    For some people, it helps to visualise of a quiet, relaxing scene, (Imagine, as vividly as you can, that you are on a tropical beach, reclining comfortably; you luxuriate, as the the sun warms you, and a gentle breeze caresses your skin lightly, inhaling the tangy, sea scented, salt laden spray from the sparkling, translucent, aqua waves, crashing on the white, coral beach sand, and feeling the hot sand slip through your fingers in one hand, sipping your favorite drink with the other; all the while, the seagulls call, swoop and cavort playfully overhead in a cloudless, azure sky: you feel just like one of them, free to soar and cartwheel, or just glide in the moist, heavy air, and that this moment will last forever ... ).      

  Some people may find it helps when they listen to: http://www.amazon.com/Sounds-Of-The-Ocea...  Other suggestions: http://www.secretsofmeditation.com/demo....  

     and the audio, as well as the printed version, at:   http://www.lessons4living.com/relaxation...   and http://www.amazon.com/Ambient-Rain-Sound...  or the mountain river sounds.  Take 4 Omega 3 fish oil supplements, daily: (certified free of mercury) it is best if consumed with an antioxidant, such as an orange, or grapefruit, or their FRESHLY SQUEEZED juice. If vitamin E is added, it should be certified as being 100% from natural sources, or it may be synthetic: avoid it.

    Ginseng & Lady's Slipper are recommended herbal remedies.            

Light to moderate daily exercise helps fight stress.  http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris

Answer 5

Becoming stressed is very common it this commercial world. Find some quality time for yourself , have a bath, some good food, wine, candles, soft music. Relax and then think why you  felt stressed at the last time.

The other way is visit your local Buddhist temple and ask for a free time to talk to a monk. Explain to him that you want to relax and unwind. They have thousands of techniques of meditation which might help you.

You need not to be a Buddhist to practise meditation and no buddist monk can charge you for his time.

Answer 6

Most of the time people are stressed for two reason 1. their enviroment and 2. nurtrtional issues.

Do you drink energy drinks or junk food?

Look on this website (in the middle section) and you will see symptoms of mineral deficency that could be your problem and you might not even realize other symptoms that are occuring.  Poor quality nutrition does effect how you deal with stress because it cause chemical imbalances that you may not be aware of for years.

http://www.phpure.com/nutrition_products...

Answer 7

The only best way is if you ask yourself these questions - "why would I want to stop getting so stressed? what benefits will I get if I stop stressing about ....? what are the costs of staying stressed indefinitely? "  

Answer 8

Just pull yourself together...  

Answer 9

meditate, sleep watch tv

Answer 10

go shopping for your self.

go do something fun with family,friends,girlfriend or boyfriend.

stop thinking about the thing that makes you stressed.

get over it lifes toooo short.

Answer 11

Go to the beach to walk or go to the park walk 30 minutes and breath profoundly.Sometimes this help.Exercise is good for mind and body.Also try to listen instrumental soft music.It relaxed me a lot.Good luck.

Answer 12

find something you enjoy

i dunno...sports, dancing, walking with a pet, listening to chilled out music, candles & bath, sip of wine

Answer 13

Work out what it is in your life that stresses you the most - then try to limit the amount of time you spend with that person or thing.  EAsier said than done.

As to relaxing, try to avoid stimulents of any form - so cut out caffeine, cut out anything electrical like computers or televisions, get out in the open air, maybe gardening or growing veg, walk along the beach if you are near or walk in a part, go swimming. Also avoid alcohol.