How can I stop looking at pornography and masturbating?

Question

This is a very serious question, and some people may find this offensive. But I really want to know how to do both. Why do I look at it so much? Why do I have to do both? Why?

How could I stop this disgusting, and immature habbit? Is there anything I could do? I do it a lot and I'm tired of it. Sometimes it ruins my self-confidence.

Ahh!!! What could I do? I'm only 15 years old, I'll be 16 in November. Help please.

No immature answers please! Thanks for your help.

Answer 1

You've gotten yourself all tied up with guilt over a natural, normal inclination.  Our bodies reward us for sexual activity, which ensures that we will do it a lot.  This is a strategy that has helped our species survive over the eons.  Other species use strong instinctual patterns and fertility cycles, we use a pleasure feedback loop.

Masturbation is not disgusting or immature.  Men and women can m********e during all stages of life.  It's a normal, healthy outlet for sexual tension, and it's especially good for young people to do because it helps you learn how your body works.  It's good to keep your sexual equipment in condition through occasional workouts.  If you don't you'll have trouble on your wedding night when you ask everything to wake up and perform after having beat it down for so long.

You don't have to look at p**n.  Your own imagination can be even more exciting.  If you feel the p**n you're looking at is tasteless or crude, look away and concentrate on your own more appropriate fantasies.

Answer 2

Well theres nothing wrong with masturbation

Answer 3

Poor guy. I understand. Yes, I unfortunately used to be a slave of this habit at your age.

This is an age when you're going through sexual tension. So naturally you want to expierience new sensations.

One thing that really helped me was to keep busy. Don't let yourself sit in front of the computer and look at those stuff. Go out and do something. Take a walk. Exercise. Talk on the phone. Find a new hobby that will get this off your mind.

Praying to God does help. Ask Him to curve your sexual instincts and get back on the straight and narrow. Pray to Our Lady too!

Believe me..if you let it go too long without doing anything, you'll become more and more a slave to it.

Feel free to email me with any other such questions.

Good luck and God bless you! =)

Answer 4

15! 15! how in the world you getting your hands on that material?  Oh well, dude if you're really serious retrieve ALL the verses in the Bible that refer to overcoming temptation and when the urge/temptation to do that act SAY the text OUT LOUD!  

Answer 5

The reason you probably look at pornography so much is because it sparks arousal in you that you can not yet experience, thus making you interested. The reason you m********e while watching pornography because you probably want to release the feelings inside you that is caused by watching it. By masturbating, you get to experience the good feeling they do the best you can. It's not as immature as you think, but the best thing to do is put a strict lock on your computer that doesn't allow you to access p**n or sites close to it. Masturbation is normal, but the p**n part can ruin your views on s*x and women. If you put the lock on your computer, you're mind will wander away from the urges of s*x and pornography. Soon, your body will adjust to your not masturbating, but for a while it'll be hard. Be aware that if you don't m********e, you might start having Nocturnal Emissions (Wet Dreams). Hope this helps.

Answer 6

First were are you getting the p**n from..........the first step is to get rid of the p**n completely.......p**n is one of the worst things to have around......cuz if its there your going to use it and your going want to look at it cuz you have it.

Send me a message and I will tell you how i helped my boyfriend with this problem.

Answer 7

Hey man. A lot more guys go through this issue than what it seems. Some hide it so I give a virtual pat to your back for having the guts to come clean. As a straight man like me you are intrigued by a woman's curves, soft body, and pretty face. Maybe like me you even enjoy the way they smell. You look at those pictures and videos without thinking and you feel like you can't help it or quit.

But you can. It's hard - you have to control your thoughts.

Monitor what you think about until this is a thing of the past. As soon as you start to get a mental image of an attractive woman STOP thinking immediately. Focus on something else quickly, I guarantee the naked images will come back into your mind but repeat the exercise. IT WILL HURT! Cause you will want to m********e to those delicious looking women we all can't resist but simply DON'T m********e.  Step away from your computer or DVD player, whatever your choice of medium for porno is. Go outside, immediately!

Sometimes the only way to defeat temptation is to run from it. And don't worry about God, he's busy with the aliens in the Andromeda Galaxy. You can do this on your own. You're only 15, please don't waste your time and manhood on pornography - there are plenty of teenage girls out there to give it to. Don't be like me, masturbating all the time, ignoring girls in real life because you lost all your juice to p**n - you'll regret it. Remember - when the urge kicks in - either step outside immediately, go to the living room and talk to your family members about stuff to take your mind off the p**n  OR - and here's the last resort -

SIMPLY DON'T m********e.

Like I said, it WILL hurt, but no pain lasts forever! Start this off by deleting every bit of p**n you have stored on your PC. Maybe you've done it before only to download more p**n or replace what you've deleted. But try again! Hopefully this time you succeed. And the sooner you do it the better you will feel. If you continue in this path you will become drawn to harder, more kinky p**n of which can range from child p**n, animal p**n, torture  p**n, scat p**n, or even g*y p**n! Trust me - I've seen it happen to a friend. He quit and got a girlfriend and now he's back on track. The p**n addiction made him weak and turned him into a different person than he was when I met him. Your brain may start wanting bigger thrills as the usual stuff becomes boring . That can lead to being interested in the type of p**n you once thought was disgusting or something you never even thought you would ever enjoy watching. Please don't go down that path. If you quit now you will save yourself a whole BUNCH of time and money. You may be getting the p**n for free now but when you're older you may start to pay for more exclusive p**n with your hard-earned money. You may even want to pay dollars for sexual favors from women, and they will not hesitate to take your money while you feed your sick habit. You may want to pay to see them take off their clothing while they dance in your face and give you a peek of what you can't have! Heck, you may even become like these new wave of p**n addicts and start buying worn panties from strange women off the internet to give you pleasure while you m********e! The hole you're digging gets deeper and deeper until you are completely buried, ruined and in need of professional help. But you're very young! And you can put an end to all of this now by quitting while you still have your whole life ahead of you.

I wasn't fortunate enough to realize it myself when I was 15 and as a result I have pissed away thousands of dollars and spent countless hours watching p**n. That's not where it stops, its been responsible for me losing a girlfriend or two, friends, and even a job. Don't let this happen to you. I am 25 now, you can have a much better life than me by stepping away from pornography now. Continue to use the internet for better things,  and forget about anyone telling you to put a filter on it or block access to p**n sites because that is an unrealistic way of quitting. In order to be successful, you have to WANT to quit! You have to do it by WILL otherwise a barrier or shield preventing you from looking will just tick you off and make you go to extreme lengths to feed your hunger for p**n. Trust me. Do it by your WILL power. Go cold-turkey and don't turn back!

Just remember - control your thinking!

Don't think about naked women being sexual and so forth, the thought will try and attack you but attack back by playing a video game, doing something productive, watching a movie, taking a hike, or whatever!  Play some loud music. Anything.

Quit now, just don't look and don't m********e.

Just don't. It's going to be uncomfortable but it will all come to pass, in time. And you will regain your wit, your self-esteem and confidence, and you'll be slapping other 15 year old girls on the f***y and flirting and hanging out before you know it. And you'll feel like you're the man. That's the powerful feeling of being in control. Remember, p**n gives you pleasure but it is NOT worth the feeling of guilt and how pathetic you feel after you've satisfied your hunger for it - like crystal meth : it's the ultimate high and the ultimate down all in one (stay away from that also).

Just put the p**n behind you. Tell yourself "it was fun looking at all those pics and videos of fine women doing nasty things but I'm done with that" And move on - live life. When you get to college, p**n will be a thing of the past and you will be surrounded by many horny young women that want to hook up with guys like YOU and I hope you take advantage of such a good situation!! Good luck.

Remember - it's gonna hurt! But no pain lasts forever!

Answer 8

I went through the same problems and, well, I have to admit that I was only 12 when I realized. Porno stuff you might wanna cut quite a bit. I mean, do you watch it everyday? Even, MORE THAN ONCE A DAY? If you do then I think that you can cut it by reducing it to once a day, then once a week, etc etc. As for the masturbating, don't stop completely. from experience, "a **** a week keeps the doc away". Coz it's true that masturbating is good if done sometimes, just don't let it affect relationship with your friends, family and maybe your girlfriend if you have one.

Answer 9

I have the same problem. Don't stop masturbating dude that is good for your body. The p**n you just have to gradually watch or look at it. Other than that though theres not much more you can do. Sorry if i didn't help.

Answer 10

I have the same problem. When I used to do that I would feel so guilty and what I did was stop and watched TV or did some reading. Im not gonna lie you'll feel the urge to do it but you have to fight it and eventually the feeling will go away. As for the p**n thing your going to stop going on the websites that you go to and go on the computer for school things until you feel that you wont go on the websites and you can surf th web. Hope this helps. Feel free to E-Mail me if you have anymore problems

Answer 11

There are two parts to this question. Looking at pornography can definitely be harmful; but masturbation is beautiful, exciting and very good for your health. Please read the following, and be sure to read it all through - the beginning is a bit confusing:

http://www.jackinworld.com/bios/bio233.h...

This is from Wikipedia:

"A 1997 study in the British Medical Journal based upon 918 men age 45-59 found that after a ten year follow-up, men who had fewer orgasms were twice as likely to die of any cause as those having two or more orgasms a week."

So continue masturbating, but try to avoid pornography. As a previous contributor has said, your own fantasies are better - and they don't involve anyone else. I really believe prayer will help, so long as you are absolutely sincere. Good luck!

Answer 12

I have the exactly opposite thing. I don't look at p**n and I have never done so. Now look at me, I am someone that doesn't feel for women. I regret no looking at p**n. I do m********e but my mind is clear of sexual things. So good luck with that.

Answer 13

You are 15 and your body is going thru hormonal changes.  It is common to want to watch pornography and to m********e.  You dont say how often you do it, but try not to feel guilty or let it ruin your self worth.  

Dont worry, you will soon get past this phase in your life..