How can I stop my 7 year from making serious lies about a coach?

Question

He teaches All Around sports. She told me he does things to the kids and kisses them. But I have been to her practices and there is nothing. She just does not want to play sports all year. How can i convince her that these lies are serious. I told her to stop but she won't. Any suggestions?

Answer 1

Maybe your daughter is trying to get attention. Maybe she feels like you don't do enough stuff with her. Or maybe your daughter doesn't like sports. Ever considered she wants to sing, dance, take acting lessons, painting lessons, or a different sport?  

Answer 2

do you know for sure he's lying. even if your child likes to instigate things, she wouldn't know that what he does is wrong. you kiss her, right? she sees that as a sign of affection. i would make sure that you're there for all practices. inform the parents you're close to, but not everyone, as this may start something. good luck

Answer 3

just do not make her play

Answer 4

consequences! if you are certain that she is being dishonest hold her accountable. punish her by taking away tv or another special activity. for two weeks or more. if she continues to be dishonest have her seen by a counselor.

Answer 5

If my 7 yr old son came home telling me this, I would believe him enough to have him chapparoned while with the coach.  If I couldn't do it, I would pay someone to.  If I could not afford that, I would have him removed from gym or humor along the schools suggestions.  If your daughter is not lying, you will have huge regrets for your entire life.  

Answer 6

are you sure its not really happening? maybe its something no one else sees?

Answer 7

Remind her that telling lies can get people hurt, and get her into trouble, and have people stop believing her when she actually DOES need help.  The Boy Who Cried Wolf would be a good story to tell her about, she's at the right age where it would make an impact.

Also think about pulling her from all around sports.  If she's this upset that she is making very big lies about a teacher, it may be in your best interest to listen to her and not have her play all year around.

Answer 8

maybe he does it out of your precence and by the way if she doesnt want to play dont make her

Answer 9

If you're there than obviously the coach wouldn't try anything. I would suggest telling the coach about your daughter's accusations. It's possible that this is really happening, you can't know unless you could watch the  practices without the coach knowing

Answer 10

she doesn't want to play sports, stop forcing her to.

Answer 11

Hmmm, are you sure that other parents are watching the practices when you are not there?  Maybe he stops his actions when he sees you there?  My daughter is 7, and if she didn't like a sport after doing it once, then she doesn't do it again and we try her in another activity that she does want to do.

Answer 12

Why are you making her play if she doesn't want to? You sound like you need to seek parenting help from a professional. You can find moms like this at libraries and stuff. What if your wrong, what if the coach is sneaky and you are wrong then I would hate to be you. But stop making your kid play sports they don't want to play either way.

Answer 13

Are you sure she is not lian. I think you should talk to other parents and see if their children have been saying the same thing or if the parents noticed any weird behavior in their children. Just because you go to some practices doesn't mean her coach isn't doing these things when your not there. Also If this is her first time lian to your knowledge she could be telling the truth.

Answer 14

Well of course he would not do this at practice when a parent is present. You should know your child well enough to know if she is lying etc. BUT I also never left my 7 yr old at practice alone. Why would you for one not believe your child, and two force her to do sports if she does not want to?

It is very sad if a child has had the courage to come to parent if they are being abused and a parent automatically dismisses them.