How can I stop my husband from scolding me in front of other people?

Question

I know sometimes I am being stubborn but i hate it when he scolds me in front of other people. I already asked him not to do that but he still does it. He's 8yrs my senior, is it rightful for him to do that? How can I make him stop? Help me...

Answer 1

No it isn't exactly right. Even if he is 8yrs older you are (hopefully) a grown woman and should be treated as such. I had the same problem with my husband but it was the other way around where I was hen pecking him (mostly because when he drags me around his friends they irritate me and my frustration came out funny). He has a gentle way about him and he asked me to stop and instead of fussing he just gently laid it out and gave examples. Once or twice he reminded me in public in his usual smiling, gentle way (in private) and I told him I was sorry and stopped. Now I try to be more aware of how my moods affect my attitude towards him and I've eliminated my "pecking" behavior. Maybe your husband is the type of man who can be gently persuaded?

Answer 2

Say"You are such an old lady" and walk away.

Answer 3

pull him to the side and ask him if u can talk it over later one on one in a mild mannor.

Answer 4

First of all, talk to him about it.  Really stress how much you hate it.  You've said that you've tried but try again.  If he won't stop, give him a taste of his own medicine and try scolding him infront of his friends.  He has NO right to scold you at all in front of people or not!  He's not your Dad, he's your husband!  Let him know you won't tolerate it.  If he absolutely won't stop it and you cannot deal with it, you may have to scare him into an ultimatum of separating for a while or him just simply stopping his embarassing comments.  What are some samples of what he says?  Does he make it out like you are the maid?  Do you think he enjoys maybe showing people that he has the upperhand in the relationship?  I wouldn't say separate for him just because he won't stop doing this but because he doesn't respect you.  A good husband wouldn't do this if it hurt you.  You aren't being stubborn!  You need to step up and put your foot down!  It's not the 1950's and you aren't Lucy (remember how the husband scolded Lucy all the time in I Love Lucy?)!  Good luck.  You deserve to be treated like a queen by your husband.  If he treats you well, you'll treat him well.  It's a win-win situation!  Point that out!  You may need to learn how to be more assertive too!  Is that a problem that you have?  You can't let people walk all over you.  YOU CAN DEMAND THE RESPECT THAT YOU DESERVE!  CASE CLOSED!

Answer 5

I know you do not want to hear this but...   see a therapist. Habits are hard to break and everyone can use a little help.  And if that doesn't work it might be time to consider other options.  Good luck!

Answer 6

If you ave told him try turning it around on him and if that doesn't work warn that you are gonna leave then if that dont work leave him

Answer 7

Kick him in the balls.

Answer 8

No, it is not right for him to do that. He may be 8 years older than you but he is still your husband and not your dad. Let him know after he does it every single time. Don't let anything slide. Or you could try giving him a dose of his own medecine and do it to him and see how he likes it if worst comes to worst.

Answer 9

He should not do that.  Have a talk with him and tell him if he has any issues with you that he needs to talk to you in private about it.  If he still does it in front of people, just look at him, tell him nicely that you are his wife, and if he speaks to you in that manner again you will seek divorce.  Him being older only means he should know better.  

Answer 10

my mom has the same problem with that, My dad side of the family scolds in public while my moms side doesn't.

it's so stressful to her and she turns it into a huge issue and gets everyone upset...

well what I'm trying to say is that it can't change just do it back to him and deal with it. It's not that bad.  Adults do it to kids and we have to suck it up.  

Answer 11

Make him give you 10 bucks or something every time he does it.

Answer 12

Get him alone, and tell him politely that you think it's belittling and makes you feel disrespected. If all else fails, maybe cry a little, that almost always works.

Answer 13

Tell him to shut the F up and scold him back  

Answer 14

i second the balls kicking thing.

DO NOT let him do that to you,

Answer 15

whack him in el peckero  

Answer 16

No, it's not right. He's an idiot for doing it.

Doesn't he know that it makes HIM look like more of an idiot than you?

Think about it! What kind of guy would embarrass his own wife in front of other people? Only an idiot would do that!

Doesn't he know that anyone watching will automatically take your side because your husband is berating you in front of others? Only an idiot would do that!

SHOW HIM THIS!

If he still does it, he's not just an idiot, he's a selfish, controlling, bully of an idiot!

Answer 17

No its not right and just try talking to him again.

Answer 18

if you mean by 8yrs my senior that he is older then you that has nothing to do with that.No men husband or boyfriend should ever scold you like some little kid that done something wrong.That is so wrong to put you down and yell at you in front of other people.He needs a slap up side his head, who does he think he is scolding you like that in front of other people.He needs to remember who you are and why he married you.Just tell him to start treating you like his wife and not some little kid that did something wrong or your lieving him.Just because you are married to him does not give him the right to treat you that way.If you need a friend to talk to that understands you look me up.

Answer 19

say no to drugs

Answer 20

Have a firm conversation with him explaining that he is your spouse, NOT your father.

If that doesn't work then slap him in front of everyone when he does that and see how he likes to be undermined.

Answer 21

lol i was gonna say kick him in the balls tooo

Answer 22

If you have already tried to discuss it with him, then wait until there is an opportunity to "CHECK" him in front of people, so that he can see that it's degrading, and perhaps he will reconsider the next time in thought that you will embarrass him again in front of others as well. That way you can tell him you just wanted him to experience the feeling of being disrespected and understand that you don't like it.

Answer 23

u scold him in front of all people and u should stop being stubborn a little bit  

Answer 24

sweety it's never right 4 a man 2 scold a woman in front of theirs.  

Answer 25

its natural to be fighting but to by scolding in front of other people is kinda rude. iono fight back (ex. scream at him really really loud)and get him embarrassed.) First tell him that your going to do that the next time he does that.....

Answer 26

Just turn and walk away from him when he starts in on you.  You have already asked him to stop.  Now just walk away and leave him standing there looking like an idiot.  He will either learn to not do it or he will find himself standing alone a lot.  Not much else left to do short of the permanent solution of divorce and such.  

Answer 27

Divorce works nicely

Carry a big bat with an attitude that says, I Will Use it.

Get a Boy friend that is willing to defend you.

No adult should have to endure this type of treatment.  Leave the guy standing alone yelling at himself.   Accentuate the point by saying "This is why no one likes you".

Answer 28

i agree with MO

Answer 29

No, it's not right...

Next time yell back at him and say "You're just mad because the Viagra isn't working!"

Answer 30

Stand up for yourself EACH AND EVERY TIME he does it.  Make a scene if you have to.  

Don't be a carpet and let his feet walk all over you.  WOMAN UP!!!!