How can I stop or curve my almost 10 year old sons bad attitude?

Question

He's always in trouble. He is VERY hyper and active. He can be very sweet. He's got a good heart but can really test people at times.

He SCREAMS when he gets mad and says mean, spoiled things.

He gets a swat and 10 minutes in time out every single time but it's just not working.

He has an iron will and he's harder to handle than my two younger kids.

Is there some form of discipline that may work better?

Answer 1

The problem is that obviously he has never been disciplined correctly.  You hit him which has only escalated this boy's anger and enabled his behavior.  So now you want to blame the boy for something he learned from YOU?  Time outs are great but this behavior is what comes from hitting your children, he has no respect for you, and why should he?  You hit him.

Answer 2

I am 13 and I know what it's like. Trust me when I say this time outs don't help AT ALL. All it does is help he sit out for 10 mins and we can go back to whatever we were doing. I learned not to do things because my parents would hit my bottom. That may not be the way you want to do it but it worked for me but if you don't want to try it that way then take away like his video games or something that he really enjoys for a little bit until he learns

Answer 3

Any time I did talked back or said something nasty to my mom, she smacked me across the face so hard I never did it again.

I learned to respect her this way.

If you are against smacking your child, try to set up a reward system based on behavior. You child's teacher can help you determine the best system for you and they are usually trained on this type of discipline.

I'm sure your child isn't always in trouble. He has his good moments, too. If he is rewarded for them, he will have more.

You also may want to play a role switching game on him where you show him how he is acting in certain situations and ask him if it looks like a 10 year old or a 5 year old's behavior. Video taping him and playing it back for him will also give him a good idea of how his behavior looks. In the role play, you should show him how to better handle the situation by demonstrating it to him. Then, have him try it. Reward him when he remembers it. Right now he is being rewarded for bad behavior because he is getting your attention. The goal is to change his behavior to positive and reward him when he does.

Answer 4

Put him over your knee.. and spank that butt good.

Answer 5

Read the book

A new kid by Friday

Kevin Leman

good book

works