How can I talk my husband into not wanting any more kids?

Question

My husband is SET on having another kid. We have 1 child a 14 month old son. I had a horrible pregnancy I was sick, lost alot of weight etc. My husband is active duty Army so he's gone alot if not deplyed he's training ( for any Army wives he's special forces and we are at a rapid deployment base so you know we have not much time to prepare for deployments) I dont think it's fair to our son to have another child and I really dont want one at all, it would ruin my life. Before we got married we agreed on 2 or 3 but I changed and I know it. Am I being unfair? He's deplyed so often it would be way too hard one me

Answer 1

I wish I could talk my husband into wanting MORE children...

Not tryin to be rude but what would change about you staying home and focusing on your son,and the new baby??

If anything just tell him right now you are not ready because you had a really rough pregnancy with your son and do not want to go through that again so soon.At least it buys some time.Its not wrong for him to want more kids,and its not wrong for you to not want any more kids...you two should sit down when given the chance to and talk about it and try to come to some sort of understanding because the both of you have very different ideas of what is to come for the future and its better left talked about rather than set aside until he wants to start tryin for another and you don't

Answer 2

Is he an airies?  Then you will have to be pushy!  :)

Maybe you don't want one now, but you might change your mind in a few years once your son is off to school.   You could suggest to hubby that your son needs your time and attention now, but in a few  years you could see where things were and talk about it then.

Answer 3

First let me say thank you to you and your husband.....your husbands service to our country guarantees that your children and mine will live free.

Perhaps you both can have what you want. Enjoy your son now.....they grow up way too fast. And when he is older around five or six he may be more independent and you may choose to have another child then. Right now your hands are full. This is completely understandable and normal. Best of luck.

Answer 4

You just have to remind your husband that it's your body that is basically carrying this baby and you're the one that has to go through painful measures to have another child.

Not to mention, why would he want another child if he is gone quite a bit? It's like a kid that wants a puppy, ends up not taking care of it and instead has his parents do the work, and then wants more and more puppies.

Answer 5

Talk to your OB and see if he will back you up is discouraging your husband from insisting. Macho men often refuse to see the suffering of others, or discount it as not important.

Maybe you could get him to agree to wait until he can be home on a more regular schedule. It is unfair and selfish to make you go thru this alone.