How can I talk some sense into someone??

Question

My mom was sick this weekend. She ended up in the ICU for a day, and then just got out of the hospital after a 5 day stay for a gall bladder infection. The day she was put into ICU, I went to my parents house and cleaned. My sister instead of helping me decided to go stuff her face and then go sleep. And she also had enough time to post a BS bulletin on myspace about how her mom was sick and people needed to pray for her.

Now tonight I talked to my mom, and she just got out of the hospital and needs to recuperate. Yet she was saying how she has to clean because my sister won't do it. My sister is 18, a high school drop out, isn't working, and just sits on her a$$ most of the time. When she isn't, she's out with the flavor of the week. How do I talk sense into my mom that she shouldn't be up and cleaning like that so soon? How do I get my sister to stop being such a lazy... and help my mom?

Answer 1

It's tough being a mom. Naturally we have an unconditional love for our children. And often that keen sense to want to have a clean home never leaves our dna.

A few months back I had a pretty serious surgery that landed me in the hospital for several days. It was hard to leave my husband during that time with 3 tough little boys. For God's sake my husband can't even load a dishwasher.

I came home to a calamity. Screaming boys and pizza for dinner. I couldn't stand it. I was ordered bed rest for 6 weeks! Don't you know I got up the day I made it home and got to work cleaning what I could, listening to body and only stopping when it warned me. I didn't do much but I still attempted. My awesome mother, saw that I needed help and stepped in to help my husband clean.

My example here...if your sister won't help and you see your mother still needs that TLC. Step in-be an example to your sister if you can. She will soon realize (wether she acknowledges it or not) that you are pulling the load in the house while your mother is ill.

Encourage your mother to rest. Which is very hard for mom's to do. It's natural for us to maintain order in the house. None the less be there for her if your sis will not. Your mother will appreciate it.

I pray that your mom has a speedy recovery. Good luck with your sister.

Answer 2

You can ask you sister to help out. Tell her to get off her butt and help you claean up. But it seems like your Mom is going to have to be the one to light a fire under her. It is good of you to look out for your mom. Just keep a check on her and help as much as you can so she won't be up tryingto do things.

Answer 3

you need to point out to your mum that if she doesn't take it easy she will end up back in hospital or worse still vitally ill.Point out to your sister that if she wants her mum to be around for many years to come that it is about time she gets off her sorry,lazy **** & pull her weight & help out.Is there any way you could take your mum to your place to recuperate?But then again when she returns home she will probably have a mess to clean up anyway as your sister hasn't done anything to help herself or others.Another suggestion is to email all the replies you get to your Question.

Answer 4

The doctor should tell your mom exactly how much physical exertion is too much.

As for your sister - honey, there's not a thing you can do.  Your parents don't care if she's a lazy b*tch who sits on her @$$ all day.  When they decide to act like parents, they'll tell her to straighten up or get out.  Until then, trying to change your sister or criticizing your sister will only drive a wedge between you and your parents.

Answer 5

sounds like your sister needs to be more responsible for one thing.  Help your mom as much as you can and tell your sister to stop thinking about herself and get off her lazy a** and start acting like an adult.  The nice way would be to talk to your sister and try and talk some sense into her.