How can I talk to my coworker about this?

Question

There's this girl I work with and she's really starting to get to me. I think she's starting to get to one of my managers too. When I first met her she said my personality doesn't jump out at her. She said it was stupid that I'm shy. I told her the reason why I'm shy is because people are judgmental, which she just proved by saying that me being shy is stupid. She said she judges people based on the way they talk to her. I don't know what she means by this but shouldn't you at least get to know someone before you judge someone? If someone is nice

to me, my friends, and my family then I will be kind to them. If someone is mean to me and the people around me, I won't like them. Last night she acted like one of the managers and I weren't doing anything. We all work at a fast food place. She needed a few things. For example, Tiffany was getting several things for her for drive-thru. She said, "I need that McFlurry." Tiffany (the manager) said, "Well come get it honey. You act like I'm not doing anything," or something similar to those words. This girl also needed hot fudge for the ice cream machine. I was getting people's food and taking orders but I thought of getting it for her and was planning on doing so. As I was taking this man's order she said, "Stephanie, I got this fudge for you out of the kindness of my heart." I don't know if she meant this genuinely or sarcastically. As I was about to leave she needed spoons for drive-thru. I was in the back getting stock and I got some spoons for her. I guess she couldn't wait on that because she said, "I need spoons!" I told her I was trying to help her but I was busy. I also told her that my mom was waiting. She said, "Well she knows you are at work. Now you know how I feel having to stock stuff everyday." I should have said, "Excuse me but at McDonald's you don't get to pick what you would like to do very often. I am trying to help you but I am also trying to get out of here ASAP because my mom is waiting in the parking lot. She gets worried and might come in here." I've thought of talking to the manager about her but I doubt that would work. Any advice? Sorry so long. If you read this and answered, thank you.

Answer 1

On past experience - yes you should mention it to your manager. If you don't mention it now and this becomes a bigger problem you'll have lost some credibility. This person isn't necessarily nasty but is very self centered. She just doesn't have any empathy with anyone else and will ultimately blame you or anyone else if something goes wrong. Because you're a quiet type and not likely to make a fuss, she'll most likely use you.  Just mention it to your manager that you feel there might be a personality clash and that you're not making a complaint but you would like it noted in case this person becomes a problem in the future.

Answer 2

Sorry to say but thats life in the work force. There is always going to be someone annoying. THis wont be the last time it happens.Try to just do your work and ignore her as much as possible.

Answer 3

Cow-orker!  Thats funny  :)

Answer 4

Tell your manager that you think it's great the way she doesn't blow up when Stephine is always under ming her authority trying to get everyone else to help her do her job including her.

Answer 5

You should have told her "I'm off the clock. If you want spoons get them yourself, it's part of the job whether you like it or not! " However, because you're shy you probably will never stand-up for yourself, so just be prepared to shut up and take it for the remainder of your employment with her. That's the reality of the situation.

Answer 6

She's an ungrateful little bit....... well you know.  People like that don't care about working, and don't deserve to have a job in the first place.  Definitely talk to your manager about how she's been treating you (and others) The manager will listen because what if she begins disrespecting customers???  Yes it's a crummy job at McDonalds, but you know what? Everyone needs to learn to speak with their boss about something important, and I can't think of a better place to start.. It's only going to prepare you for when you get a corporate career (if you choose)

  Good Luck!