How can I talk to my mom about her being over-protective?

Question

My mom is very paranoid and very over-protective. I can understand a mother's fear- I'm her only child.

However, I'll be turning 18 in a few months.

I know I have a loving mother and have it much better than some people in the world. I am thankful for that. She's not trying to be mean but it is quite suffocating and unnecessary.

A teacher has even told her that her protectiveness is reaching unfair.

So how can I talk to her about this?

Answer 1

Yeah you'll be glad one day that she was so over-protective! It's not always a bad thing, and you're right, you are very fortunate. Just go to her and be like "look mom...I'm almost 18, it's time to start letting your babygirl go. Just give me a little more space, you know by now that I'm responsible and you can trust me"

Answer 2

Just bring it up. Say exactly that...your being too over protective and I'd like some more space.  You need to be specific on what you want space on though.  Driving privileges, maybe she calls for phone to much, etc.

Answer 3

well just have a sit down talk with her about that you will always be her daughter but you are not her little girl that you used to be and you are growing up and you have to learnt to be on your own and you want a good relationship with her but you still need your space and some time by yourself and with your bffs and boyfriends she has to learn to let go of your hand because you are practically an audult and your not going to go off and never see her again

          hope everything works out fine good luck

Answer 4

im not really sur, maybe talk to one of her close friends and have her talk to her bout it....i guess i dont really no. my mom is the EXACT same way, so when u find out tell me!

Answer 5

Don't let her be MOM.  She is can only be involved in aspects of your life you invite her into.  If you stop.  She will stop.  I bet you ask her opinion on every thing you buy.  You ask her if you look nice before a date and what you think of guy you are dating.  It is only natural that she responds.  If you grow up and stop asking for opinions she will stop giving them.

Answer 6

You know what? I don't think you can say anything to change her mind. Even when I came home from college, my mom would try to re-instate the rules I had before I left. When my mom visits me now, she will wake me up for work because she is afraid I will oversleep (I have NEVER been late for work in five years). Just take it on a case by case basis, and reassure her. It's not going to change when you are 18, trust me. The only "cure" was me moving out.

Answer 7

Explain to your mom that she did a very good job raising you and that you have heard all the warnings and concerns but she has to let go so you can start using these tools and learn to live as an adult. Then remind her that the ultimate test of being a good parent is knowing when to let go. Good luck and be careful out there

Answer 8

Well, my mom was the same way and nothing I did or said helped the situation. Seriously, the best thing for my relationship with my mom was moving out when I turned 18 and started college. I get along with her so much better now that it is amazing. You can try talking to her, but it isn't going to change how she reacts to situations, you know?

Answer 9

ur turning 18 you should be old enough to talk to ur mom moms just like to be moms they love u

Answer 10

my mom like takes me and my sisters cameras and like looks at them...its creepy. tell her you need some space.