How can I teach my daughter how not to be a punk but not to be beating kids up at the same time?

Question

She aways let kids hit her and talk to her bad. I tell her dont let them do that but I also say if some one hits you hit them back but i dont want her being a bully.

Answer 1

i would sign her up for karate- (i know my answer for everything) But normaly the under 10 classes focuss on deescaltion techniques and blocks. and they also teach when and how if you do have to fight (stranger danger to the next level)

Answer 2

kiddox is right!

Answer 3

ummmm??? punk??? do you mean WIMP??? yes u do. go get dictionary.

Answer 4

I tell my daughter the same thing. If someone hits you, hit them back. She never wanted to and would tell the teacher or bus driver depending on where the hitting happened but the kids would end up hitting her even more for telling. She said if she hits them back she would get in trouble.

I personally tell her that if someone hits her first she has my permission to hit them back. She might get in trouble at school but she won't get in trouble at home. On the other hand if she is the one doing the hitting to begin with the she will have to face the consequences both at school and at home. By the way my daughter is 8.

So I think pretty much making it clear that hitting is not good but that they also can not let themselves get pushed around. I was a bully when I was in school and the more I saw someone was scared of me the more fun I had picking on them. I'm an adult now and I know I was wrong to do so but kids don't realize that yet.

Answer 5

Sorry I disagree with somethings. I thought not hitting was the right way to raise a child. I was wrong. Children can be mean and cruel. When they see that they can hit someone or say mean things and hurt that child they just don't stop. then other kids start to do the same thing.

There is a difference between defending yourself and jsut being a bully. I think you should explain to her about that. I have been through this unfortunetly with my older daughter. Finally when a little girl pushed her 2 times she pushed her really hard and knocked her down. That is when the kids stop bothering her.

I told my daughter because she wouldn't fight back because she thought it was wrong to hit. The principle explained to her self defense. I also told her because in her eyes I am god," You do what you need to hit or push. What ever they do to you you do back to them. If you get in trouble. You call me and I will handle it. Never had to but it made her feel better when she had too. Violence isn't right but this was the only way for the kids to leave her alone.

Answer 6

she wont be  bully you just need to make sure you teach her the difference. I always tell my daughter to let an adult know first and if the do nothing and the hit you again hit them back. And you may want to try a Karate class because it will teach the difference between just fighting and defending ones self

Answer 7

Tips :-D

1. Tell your daughter to walk away when something happens.

2. Tell her not to fight back. Things like that makes matters worse.

3. Tell her to tell the teacher or nearby supervisor.

4. Write a note to her teacher and tell her what's going on.

5. Talk to the people hurting your daughter. Say that if your daughter tells you again , then you'll call the people's parents.

6.Tell your daughter to not get in much trouble such as not hanging out with bad people.