How can I tell her that i'm no longer interested?! HELP!!!?

Question

Ok, here's the deal.

I was seeing a girl for a while and then her ex boyfriend cleaned up his act and wanted to make it work with her. They dated for 2 years, so I kinda stepped to the side and let them be.

In the mean time i just wanted to play around a little bit and i ended up hooking up with Renae, a girl who i know through some friends. She then began to say how much she likes me and i began to like her a little bit but then she bacame a little too clingy and i backed off....

I havent spoken to her in over three weeks because i dont have any credit but today I got a message from her saying how much she misses me and really wants to see me.

On the side i've always had a thing for my ex girlfriend and we started dating again recently, and I don't know how to tell Renae that i am not interested in her anymore. How can i tell her that but I still wanna be friends without cliche responses: "its not you, its me." or "I think we should just be friends..."?

Any ideas...???/ they would be greatly appreciated!

Thanks, in advance.

Answer 1

To make things simple, tell her the truth. You are right, cliched responses normally brings more negative feelings than good.

Tell her sincerely that you've met someone, and if she wants to you guys can be friends. Now, it'll depend on her if she wants to accept your friendship or not

Answer 2

Well actions speak louder than words. Talking to her face to face helps.

Talking about a future event you could habg out together with other friends helps. Then talk about some upcoming event you her and friends have planned/will be at...and say hope we can still hang out as friends (shows you are thinking about her and what that friendhip might look like), but if you(she) don't I'll understand.

If she asks why...i always think its wise to tell as much as truth as possible without unduely hurting them. Something like I was worried you were getting more vested in the relationship than I was and I just didnt know how to talk to you about it. You can also mention you realized you still had feeling for your x, adn since have gotten back with her Simple and provides her closure, rather than something generic like its not you, its me.

Answer 3

go up to that b  it  ch and say "listen here woman, i dont want you hangin round me no more i just wanted you p***y and now that i got it, im done with you."

Answer 4

just tell her the truth

Answer 5

As painful, uncomfortable, and embarrassing as it may be for you, the best thing you can do is be honest. If you and your ex are getting back together, the news will travel in ways you will never guess and pretty soon Renee will find out, hopefully not by going into a take out place and finding you two making out in the back.  If you humanely tell her right now that you got back together with your girlfriend and you are no longer interested, while she may be hurt and angry right now, if she is mature enough, she will respect you for telling her the truth.  Plus, you won't be branded a liar when she finds out from other sources the reason reason you left.  

Answer 6

Depends on if she knows the girl you got back with.  If you all know each, just say your ex came and you going to see what happens with that.  Say that you don't want to lose her as a friend, and hope that she will understand.  

If she doesn't know about the other girl, just say you're not into anything serious now, and you're dating different people.  You can add it didn't really click for you, you'd like to stay friends.  Keep it short, direct and simple.