How can I tell her to put me on birth control when I know sh'e gonna flip?

Question

Ok, I'm 16 and I need to be put on birth control. I'm afraid to ask my mama cause I know she's gonna flip. We were having "the talk" oneday and she clearly stated, "If ever that times comes and yall feel like yall need to be put on birth control, yall need to tell me. I want ask no questions about who you doing it with or nothing like that..." Now you're probably reading this, saying to yourself, " Why is it so hard for you to just come out and tell her?" Well, you don't know my mama like I do. Just because she said tell her doesn't actually mean she's not gonna ask questions. I'm not obligated to share that kind of information with my mama, because I know she's gonna ask 1000 questions and she's gonna freak out. I just don't know what to do. I don't wanna end up like my older sister(ie not even legal by law, with a baby). I can't depend on no man to make sure that he don't knock me up. Accidents do happen you know. I can't afford to be taking care of no baby. I don't even have a job. I'm going crazy here. I just don't know what to do. I don't wanna ask her and then she flip like I know she will. Can somebody please help me!?

Answer 1

have your brother girlfriend call some doctors to see if theres a free clinic in your area. we have planned parenthood here. they will give you free control without parents knowing and when your due for a check up they send a plain notice telling you its time for a visit. if theres none, then you will have to tell your mom that its going to happen and you would rather be protected then ending up pregnant. it might help to get a part time job to show her your growing up and willing to help with the cost of the pills. good luck...

Answer 2

You're 16, you shouldn't need birth control, worry about passing algebra before having s*x. Either way, it's your life. Of coarse she's going to flip you're still a kid! She's your mom, she has the right to ask 1,000 questions and freak out when you are doing something you shouldn't be doing. Its good that you want to be safe and all, but if you want to be a grown-up you better start acting like it and pay the piper, you'll have to ask her soon or a later, there are free clinics but I'm not really up to date on the laws, but I'm pretty sure until you're 18 the doctors must inform your parents of what's going on, it's their right as a parent. Obviously she's worried about what people will think about her child being on birth control at a ridiculously young age, it will in the eyes of others reflect on her parenting skills, your actions have consequences not only for you young lady but for your mom as well, just remember that the next time you're going to do something stupid.

Jenxx

Answer 3

At 16 you shouldn't be sexually active anyway.  It is your mother's house and she has the right to se the rules in her home and as long as you live in your mother's home you need to live there according to her rules.  You are still a minor and since your mother is responsible for you she has every right to ask 1000 questions about why you would want to begin taking birth control.  The only way you could end up "Knocked up", (that happens to be the immature way to discuss pregnancy..so obviously you're not mature enough for the pill to begin with), is if you were sexually active and that would not be your mother's fault but your own.  When you make a choice about something you are obviously not mature enough to handle there are consequences and it would be your fault if you wound up "knocked up".  Also you need to bear in mind that no birth control method on the market is 100% effective.  I and all three of my kids are living proof of that because I was on the pill when they were conceived.  If you're not mature enough to be pregnant and raise a child then you are not mature enough to have s*x period.  

Answer 4

Your mom has already told you that she's open to the option of you getting birth control.  If you're not adult enough to take her up on that offer then maybe, just maybe, you're not adult enough to be considering s*x.  You might want to think about that.

Also, is the questioning you think your mom will give you when you ask for birth control better or worse then what your sister went through telling her she was pregnant?

Know too that even if you're on the pill, it only protects against pregnancy.  You still need to demand condom use to protect against disease.

Answer 5

you shouldnt be having s*x anyway