How can I tell my alcoholic Father I feel?

Question

My dad is an alcoholic.He has openly admitted to being one .I don't like to visit with him anymore and often go weeks without seeing or talking to him.He makes me so mad.I've tried to get him help,making him appointments with psychologists and he just blows them off.He's gone through two divorces and numerous other relationships.My Ex-Stepmother moved my brother to Houston,which is 10 hours away from here.He doesn't remember anything because the beer has fried his mind.When I have something important to me going on he is never there,and I'm not surprised anymore. I understand he is depressed ,but there are other things he can do to feel better. I know because I have diagnosed with Major Depression and Anxiety Disorder. What else can I do?

Answer 1

just like him for who he is my dad was same but he is over it now  

Answer 2

My father sounds alot like yours.  He did drink and wasnt the best and I would always go get him when the law called after pulling him over.  He has diabeties, cancer, and dymensia.  I convinced thecops to let me take him on home and they would until his luck ran out.  He shouldnt have been driving away with his illness but he did.  He hit a car and went to jail and his illnesses got worse so he stopped drinking.  It is a shame but your dad may have to experience bad health or hurting himself or someone else before he quits.  Just pray for him and if you dont feel like going around then dont.  Call every now and then and ask if he is okay.

Answer 3

I am so sorry you dad continues to be a drunk. A choice he makes freely. My dear a person like him needs to want to overcome this. As of today he does not want to. (if ever) You need to take care of you. You need to get treatment. You have a choice to not let your dad be part of your problems. You can get better. Read the book bad childhood good life by Dr. Laura..

Answer 4

What else can you do?  You can take care of yourself.  It sounds like you are an adult, not a child.  So you can focus on yourself.  Get good treatment for the depression and the anxiety disorder.  Take care of you.  Focus less on dad.

If you feel you need assistance, try Al-Anon.

http://www.al-anon.alateen.org/english.h...