How can I tell my cousin that she's overwieght without hurting her feelings?

Question

She is obese (90 pounds or more overweight) and she hates it when anyone talks to her about her weight. She is 19. She has low self confidence because of her weight problems and I'm worried about her health but I don't know how to help her without her getting mad at me?

Answer 1

there's a reason she hates it when anyone talks about her weight. it brings your self esteem down even further because it's a flaw that's being pointed out. it is extremely hard to lose weight. if you want to help her casually ask her if she wants to take a walk one evening or go to the gym together. if you support her by doing things with her then the chances of her obtaining a healthy weight is more likely.

also, let's say that y'all are hanging out and want something to eat or drink. if you make something healthy, such as a smoothie, out of natural, fresh ingredients (fresh or frozen fruits etc.) then it makes it easier to do the same on her own because she saw how you did it.

most of all, like i said before, just be supportive. as other people and I have said, she knows she is overweight. there is no need to point it out to her. encourage other family members, especially females, to help you as well.

Answer 2

she already knows.

she will get offended if you bring it up.

why do you want to rub it in?

Answer 3

there is no easy way to talk to anyone about their weight, but what may help is if you start asking her to come to the gym or just for a walk and then go from there. hope it helps

Answer 4

Take her to a health club and get her started on exercise*

Answer 5

she knows she overweight....and im sure she wishes she wasnt and she's probably taking pills or something for it. your not going to help her by telling her shes overweight your going to hurt her more. i would jus leave it alone....its her life anyhow and she hurts everyday because of it. i would jus stay out of it.

Answer 6

Look up some fun dance classes or something.... she may not want to do the gym thing.  Bring it up as something new and different that the two of you could do together.... don't make it about her losing weight... it may put her off.

Answer 7

confront her and talk to ther..say u want to help u can see shes upset maybe running and doing excercise 3 days a week will help. DIETS DONT WORK!!  just be there for her

Answer 8

First, your cousin knows she is overweight so you don't need to tell her.  And since it does cause her some much anxiety, I am sure she brings it up.  Next time she does, take that as an opportunity to express your health concerns.  She hates it when people talk about her weight probably because they are not talking out of concern but more out of ridicule.  Maybe you can suggest ways for the two of you to exercise together or join her at weight watchers.  Good luck!

Answer 9

She obviously already knows she is overweight and you pointing it out will only make her feel way worse. If you want to help her then help her feel beautiful no matter what her size is. Maybe some low key hints to help her would be to start an exercise plan for yourself and then tell her you get bored when you do it by yourself and wanted to know if she wanted to join you on walks or whatever because you heard that if you have someone else do it with you then you stick to it easier (which is true). Just dont tell her she is overweight. And by what standards is she overweight, are you comparing her to a 90lb. person or is she really overweight to where it will affect her life? Just be gentle or you will drive her into it worse.

Answer 10

at 19 she probably knows that she's overweight and just not doing anything about it. You don't have to tell her about it. If you want to help her go to the gym together or something

Answer 11

Since she already knows she is overweight telling her is simply reminding her of what she already knows. This will not be constructive. Perhaps spending time with her and setting some good examples of exercise and eating habits in a very subtle way without bring up her weight problem would be more productive.