How can I tell my husband I don't want visitors?

Question

Hello, I'm 9 months pregnant scheduled to be induced in less than two weeks. One week ago we moved to a new place and my husband's niece was supposed to help us pack, but now she's stayed at our new place with us and doesnt seem to want to leave, she's definitely made herself at home here. I have to cook more now, clean more, do more stuff, I unpacked everything asap so that she didnt have to say she had to help me but shes still here and apparently plans on staying even after the baby is born, to me, thats inappropriate. I need time alone with my husband to relax and fix the nursery (thats the room she's using now, big mess in there) but i dont know how to deal with this situation, i dont want my husband to feel offended and i dont want problems with his family, what should i do?

Answer 1

First of all, talk to your husband ASAP. Tell him how much stress this is putting on you and how this could potentially be harming the baby.

The next time you see your niece, tell her that you need to start working on the babies room ASAP! Tell her, that while you enjoy her company you really need your alone time with your man before the baby makes three. You dont have to be rude, but stearn. If she doesn't like it too bad... its your house!

Answer 2

tell him, you've enjoyed her stay, but you feel pressured. You should really just tell him, you want time to yourself, where you don't want to have to cook or clean for anyone else than you did before. Tell him, a nine months pregnant has enough to worry about. Tell him that she can stop by and stuff, but for now you need a little more space. I'm sure he'll understand. do it the nicest way possible. maybe one night at dinner ask her, if she has any interest in getting an apartment. like bring it up in conversation. say(if it took you a while to make the meal), i've had sooo much to do. i mean i still have to do laundry or something. maybe she'll offer to help. if she doesn't just say theres a lot going on with the baby and maybe she'll take the hint. good luck! and congratulations!

Answer 3

You just have to tell him... if you think this is hard, you better work on your communication skills with him.  Imagine when you have issues with the kids you guys need to discuss.  Just be honest and direct.

I'd focus on needing to rest and relax and spend time with him before the baby comes.  Most people don't really use their nursery for quite a while after the baby comes so he's probably not real concerned about that.

Answer 4

Tell him that while you've enjoyed your niece's stay, it is time to work on the nursery.  Your due date is getting really close and you need to have the room ready for the baby.  Your husband should understand that his wife and baby come first.  I doubt he'd be upset about it.

Answer 5

Tell her to leave. Forget her feelings. Where was she staying before she got there? She can go back. I am not trying to be mean or anything but you had plans already that did not include her. Tell her thank you for the help but now she has overstayed her welcomed and it is time for you to prepare for the baby......you and your husband only..

Good Luck

Answer 6

This is about communication:

Tell your husband that you do not want his neice living with you. Tell him she needs to vacate the premises, so HE can paint the nursery.

Tell him you want her gone by X (date)-give him a day or two to help her move.

If he seems to have a problem, he can tell his neice that his bi0otchy wife wants her house back -the nursery painted and REAL help-before the baby is born.

If that causes a problem with his neice she is an idiot.

If it causes a problem between you and your husband then HE is an idiot.

If you don't stick up for yourself and your family, then you are an ----

Good luck. And start right now, telling people what you want and don't want, and sticking up for your husband and children.

You shouldn't have to put up with this EVER and surely not now.

Answer 7

look you get a bit of a "get out of jail free card" being 9mo pregnant. You'll be forgiven if you come across bitchy.

Just tell you husband he needs to explain to his niece that she needs to hit the road beacuse you need the baby's room and you want an empty house.

If he doesn't go tell her its time for her to go!

This is your house and you did not intend to have a house guest when having your baby!

Answer 8

If you really don't want problems with hubby and family then it looks like you can say nothing.  But..... Are they really unreasonable; or is only your sister-in-law unreasonable?  You won't know until you stand up for yourself and ask your sister-in-law to leave.  Tell your hubby that you must have your privacy.  Be gracious to your sister-in-law and thank her for her time and help. Then bite the bullet and tell Sis that because you must get started on the nursery, she must be ready to leave in the morning and that you will drive her back to her house early so that you can get started on what you need to do.  Don't forget, you are a member of this family too so it is possible that they will be very co-operative because they don't want to offend you either.  Good luck.    

Answer 9

Say I appreciate your help, and I know that you are anxious to get back to your life, so we won't be offended if you leave now.

Answer 10

Talk to your husband and try to get him to understand that you and your husband need time to bond with the new baby. Maybe sit down with her and try to talk to her and see what her intentions are. It is hard to talk about your spouses family without offending them. I have been there. Your husband should put you and the baby first. Anyway, just sit down and talk to your husband, explain how you feel, then have him talk to his niece.

Answer 11

you have to tell your husband how you are felling about the situation with  the state you are in now.tell him what your heart desire .but pls in a friendly and nice mood in order for him to understand you.

Answer 12

Just explain you need to get the nursery fixed before you go into the hospital so when does she want to go home? You are facing weeks of getting use to a new born and you don't need the extra worry. Explain you have enjoyed her company but its time to go. Tell your husband (and mean it) that you can not have her there any longer. Maybe between the two of you, you can find a good time to take her home or send her home.