How can I tell my mom I am having s*x and I do need birth control?

Question

I'm 15 and I'll be 16 in a few weeks. My boyfriend is 18 and we've been dating for almost a year and a half. The other night my mom asked me if we were having s*x. I said No.. which was a lie. She specifically told me not to lie, and I did. I was scared at the time and I still am now, but I need to tell her. I feel horrible for lying. She wasn't being mean or accusational or anything. But I just lied. Anyways.. the point was that I want to tell her that I lied and I need to get on birth control like she offered. So could someone(who has gone through this or who is a parent) please help me. I don't want to be dishonest with her.

Answer 1

Your mother loves and wants what is best for you is why she asks about you and s*x. As you lied to her(did you use condoms?) It is now best to go to mom and tell mom, you are sorry you lied to her about your sexlife and that you need her to get your pills. Don't wait for too late. Having s*x can get you pregnant you know. Your mother will always love you, whatever you do. She might be pissed but for a moment only.Tell her to relax.

Answer 2

never gone through it but ur mom sounds understanding, she offered birth control. i would tell her, shes not going to cut ur head off and she will prob say dont lie to me again.  and ask her can i have that birth control =)

Answer 3

Just tell her that her question surprised you and you weren't comfortable twlking to her, but you are now, and then tellher.

Answer 4

As a married mom of two, my first piece of advice is to stop having s*x until you're married to a man who you know will love and support you FOREVER.  Even on birth control, you could end up with a baby (friends of mine had that happen and she was taking the pill properly).  If you choose to ignore advice #1, then advice #2 is to tell your mom asap.  She wants what 's best for you!  If you're adult enough to have s*x, you're adult enough to have a rational conversation about something which could potentially change the course of your life (early motherhood).  PLEASE DON'T WAIT to tell her!

Answer 5

Mary Alice,

Give mom a little credit! I am a stepmom and aunt and am not so terribly old that i don't remember what it was like as a teenager.

Sit mom down again. Tell her the truth..and be honest about WHY you lied! Having s*x is a VERY personal choice and it can be hard to discuss it with ANYONE much less your mother (i'm 34 and still have a hard time discussing s*x with my mother!). As embarassing as the topic may seem it can also be a bonding experience for both of you. She will value the fact that you discussed it with you and i genuinely think she loves you and wants to be sure you are being safe and careful.

AND...like i mentioned..give mom credit. If you have dated for as long as you have we (as in 'moms') assume you HAVE had s*x and is probably more upset because she's sure you LIED to her than the fact that you are having s*x...maybe.

Good luck...be strong!

Answer 6

just tell her what you said here, if she was ok then she will be fine when you tell her the truth.  I think the best way to bring it up is to bring up the last conversation and tell her you were scared and that you are having s*x but that you would like to safe and you need her help with that etc.  goodluck and remember she's your mom and she loves you and wants the best for you.

Answer 7

just sit her down and tell her " hey remember the other night when we you asked me if I was having s*x? - well the answer is yes I am and i was a little embarrased to tell you that I was."  I thiknk its great that your mom even approached the subject and yes you should take advantage of the fact that she cares enough about you not to  want to see you as a teenage mother or infected with some horrible STD.  approach her on it again and I am sure she will NOT be upset that you want to be honest with her about the changes in your life.