How can I tell my psycologist I'm suicidal?

Question

I've been planning to kill myself for months now. I wrote out a suicide letter to my brother, the only family member I'm close to. I enclosed a CD I made for him of songs I thought he'd like hoping that one day he might think of me and listen to them then remember. Anyway, my point is... I had it all planned out. But when it got down to it, I couldn't go through with it. There's always that small chance that things could possibly get better.

I've decided I want to live, but I don't trust myself not to kill myself in a moment of despair. I think it's time to tell my psycologist what I was planning to do, don't you?

So, my question is how can I tell him? I haven't seen him before as I've just been seeing a psychiatrist who gives me medications. I don't find it easy to talk about this sort of thing face-to-face, I don't suppose many people do...

Does anyone have any advice for me? I'd really appreciate it. Thanks for reading. x

Answer 1

Tell him you feel like killing yourself.  He'll get it.

Hope I helped.

Answer 2

Your psychologist is trained to understand what you say, tell him in any way you feel comfortable at all, he is there for that purpose, to help and understand.  I'm glad you decided it's time to speak up though.  Great that you want to live :)  

Answer 3

Well, it is quite a bold step to admit to someone, face-to-face, that you are suicidal. It's tough, but you might improve things for yourself if you do. I know from experience.

Of course, your psychologist will be used to people who have these feelings - they should know how to react. It's also not your fault you feel this way, so don't feel ashamed or embarrassed to admit that it's how you feel. Everything you say will be between you and him, and you're obviously eloquent enough to explain your feelings and situation in a way that will enable him to help you.

Although the question you asked was behind a comfortable anonymity, you've done well to write how you feel here, so you're already on the right track.

If all else fails, print this question off, and hand it to him. Let him read it. And work from there.

All the best.

Answer 4

Tell him you don't want to die... but you can't keep going on as you are.. you can't cope.. you feel suicidal..

Tell him that you don't want to feel like this anymore...

And then talk about what's upsetting you..

Answer 5

You just gotta come out and say it. It won't be easy but he/she won't be able to help you unless you tell them the whole truth.

Answer 6

please tell him, my g,daughter tryed to kill herselft three times thank god she fled thire is happyness tomorrow, my g. daughter is getting marry this weekend she is 25 now, she has a good job. a new house, she was in a fog sents she was 14, it will get better,,judy

Answer 7

just don't do it!! :-o

Answer 8

I would just come out and say it. If you be as honest as you can you will receive honest solutions to what you are going through. :)

Answer 9

Well done you!!! for realising things can get better!!!" people i know have killed them selfs in the past year and its caused so much pain.

Know that ur not alone people feel like this and get better!!! Bascicly id just tell her/him straight out say 'look i think i should tell u i was gona kill my self i changed my mind last miniute but iam afraid i mte do it again and i really want ur help' and let them take it from there dont worry u wont be the first to say it to them good look!!! lol ps iam here any time

Answer 10

the psychologist will probably know after the first session anyway just by talking to you, but you should still tell.

Answer 11

Just tell him.  You won't be the first person to tell him that, so he will know exactly how ot react and won't think bad of you. He'll know what to do to help.

If you don't think you will remember everything you want to tell him print out your message above and ask him to read it.  

Answer 12

Please tell him as they can help either write down how you feel or can you take someone with you for suport

Answer 13

We all go through hard times during our teen years. There is a lot of pressure today on youth. Just hang in there, stop thinking of suicide. If you love your brother, do you seriously think that he would be better off without you in his life? Of course not! Take it easy on yourself and learn to pray and find ways to get rid of your stress.

Answer 14

tell him you sometimes find it hard to think of going on. taht way you avoid all words such as 'death' and 'suicide' which can make you feel arkward and not want to say anything.

your 16, you have your whole life ahead of you, you will grow up, no doubtedly into a beautiful young woman, no matter what career or life choice you take, you will always be loved and people will always care about you. if you ever want to talk, messgae my profile or on here, and i'll add you on msn :) i will and im sure many others will be here for you if u ever need someone, even if u just want them to listen to you. you have so much left to live.

www.samaritans.org may also help you.

my thoughts are with you darlin. xxxx

Answer 15

you have to tell them, they will help

personal experiance

Answer 16

Big HUGE HUG sweetie.  Somebody NEEDS to tell you that YOU matter.  Let ME , as a mom, tell YOU that YOU MATTER.  The guilt you feel for having thought about suicide is what is bugging you now.  THAT is a BIG factor in depression.  G U I L T.    Break the cycle and KNOW that you have already taken steps to NOT do that horrid deed,.

  Our brains embrace solutions, and YOUR brain found pleasure in FINDING a solution, that does NOT mean that YOU are suicidal, it just means you needed a break from the pressures and pain that you are having.

I will tell you that YOU dear one are normal, we all at times have wondered if "THAT" was the solution.... then we have to remember the reasons WHY "that" is NOT really a solution.  Sadness is only temporary and until we are old enough to KNOW this, it is overwhelming to feel so bad. The more challenges YOU overcome the stronger YOU will be in these moods.

On the other hand, if YOU submitted to "that" YOU will cause the worst pain EVER given to a parent..."that" is the pre factor of a chain reaction of PAIN that will lead OTHERS that YOU love astray.,  "THAT" is an act of supreme selfishness.

Answer 17

to start take a look at your life  separate the good from the bad you should explain to your brother that you feel this explain why you are upset he will support you and put you in touch with agencies to good look

love fizzdude

Answer 18

I'm sorry you are feeling so bad. It is good though that you are going to see a psychologist and that you have decided that you want to talk about your feelings.

You will probably find that the psychologist will help you to voice these plans. It is their job to draw the information out of you in a way that is as easy for you as possible. They will probably ask you directly if you have any suicidal plans... so, there's no need to worry about just coming out with it out of the blue.

The session will focus around your thoughts and feelings. You will work on the reasons behind your feelings and thoughts and things you can do to start changing them.

good Luck

Answer 19

Even though you may not be able to physically say it, you have explained your situation eloquently here. If you can't vocally say the words, send him/her a link to this question.

I used to feel the same as you and found writing my problems down a lot, lot, lot easier. The pyschologist will then see this as a starting point and take it from there.

Take it easy dudette - and things do get better :  )

Answer 20

Tell him as directly as you can. the fact that you want to talk about this, means though you have issues. You're not ready to give up. I've been where you are, and it is bleak and feels like it's never gonna be better. But, if you persevere and take things a step at a time you will get through this, and be stronger for it. Peace M.

Answer 21

You need to tell him how you feel, as there must be underlying reasons for you feeling the way you do. Your psychologist is a professional and will help you cope with what is making you feel this way. Its a lengthy process but I am sure you will make it!

Answer 22

First there is no reason why you should kill yourself! You're sixteen and have the rest of your life to live,you can be whatever you want to be and do whatever you want to do! Just remember that your psychologist just want to help you and if they don't know what your feeling or thinking they won't be able to do that. Gear yourself up to say it whatever time, then count to three and say it even if it's not what your talking about. You need help with this and remember they can only help you if you tell them what's wrong.

Good Luck and don't commit suicide!!!!!!

Answer 23

Write a letter to them, explain in it that you find it difficult to tell people face to face and explain everything you have been feeling, planning, thinking about etc in the letter.  They will prob arrange for you to come and see them and they can ask you questions, therefore putting them in the driving seat which shouldin theory make it a bit easier for you.

They only want to help you and you must must must!!! tell them you have been feeling this way.  

Please dont kill yourself, my sister was killed 9 years ago when she was only 14 and she had her whole life ahead of her just like you do!! Make the most of it, you can do so much and be someone you probably think you'll never be.  Life is so very precious, cherish every minute  xox

Answer 24

Just think about the people that care abut u such as your brother!1 Suicide is selfish and no one shud feel that way and the only way too get better is too seek help and thats the psychologists job. Many people will just think ur lashing out and attention seeking but surely its an illness becaused its not normal too feel that way!

Maybe when you go too see him you should write a letter and show him rather than trying too talk about it.

I hope you get better and all goes well.x

Answer 25

if you are in that much despair you just tell him, he will know what to do to help you get out of those depressive feelings.

Suicide is NEVER the answer it only makes things much worse.

if this psychologist is not helping you go to a psychiatrist

Answer 26

write a note, and present it to your psychologist.  you might want to do this at the end of your first session, so that he has time to digest the information before responding to you.  don't worry about finding it hard to talk about it.  your psychologist is trained to deal with people who feel like this and will know how to approach it and what to say to you.  there will be questions he has to ask, and procedures he has to follow, as part of taking care of you.

if i were you, i'd just print out what you've written in your question there.  it pretty much says what you mean and is a good indicator of your mental state.

as to killing yourself:

you say you're only really close to your brother.  think how you'd feel if he killed himself, and then think very VERY carefully if you want to put him through that kind of pain.  i lost someone very close to me, suddenly, and when he was far too young to die.  the only reason i can forgive him at all for not being around now is that he died by accident.  if he'd done it on purpose, i'd probably still be angry. and that was over three years ago now.

suicide is incredibly selfish.  don't do it.  there's always better things to be doing.  tell your psychologist, and your GP as well, so that they know to keep an eye on you.

you're only young. you're a teenager. you're SUPPOSED to be disaffected, depressed and angry.  if you're a completely happy teen, either you've missed something, or there's something wrong with you!  but the adult world, whilst far from perfect, has much more to offer.  go out and look for it. it's waiting for you.

Answer 27

Please don't even think about committing suicide. That's the stupidest thing to do.

"I wrote out a suicide letter to my brother, the only family member I'm close to."

If you're so close to him, wouldn't you like to know what he thinks about this? Throw away the CD and talk to him instead. I'm 100% sure he won't say: "Yeah, I think you should commit suicide."

"There's always that small chance that things could possibly get better."

Although you may not realize it, you've already taken the first step, that is to have HOPE.

"So, my question is how can I tell him?"

First explain your situation and then mention it.

"I don't find it easy to talk about this sort of thing face-to-face, I don't suppose many people do..."

Who doesn't?

Answer 28

well it is hard i guess to talk to somebody about u wanting to kill yourself.

but if you really were hoping things were going to get better and really think they are, then you should talk to your psychologist, they really can help you. I went to one a long time ago when my mother and father died and they really did help, you just have to be honest and let it all out i mean thats what they are there for. But think of it this way, what are you killing your self for? what good is going to come out of it? sure your going to have no more worries because youll be gone. but what about your brother and the ones that you love and love you. how are they going to feel if youve killed your self. Its not an escape its just a cheap way of getting out of your problems, then others would have to deal with problems because of it. But yea please get help its not the answer. My friend used to be suicidal but i dont know if she is any more and it scares me coz its hard to talk to her about those things. but good luck with every thing and cheer up :)

Answer 29

You need to be very careful. my best friend tried to kill herself but i saved her somehow took her to the hospital. after they though she was crazy and wanted to put her in mental hospital. it was just so horrible. she wanted to kill herself over some problems that she though cant be fix up, but at the end of the day she is happily living now. i would advise you to tell them that sometimes you feel like you want to kill yourself but never planned to or tried to. otherwise you never know what they gonna think that you are crazy or something.. Good luck :)  

Answer 30

Yeah, you should tell him. Hmm, maybe if you wrote it down and then gave it to him/her to read when you do see him/her. Then they can help you, but you wont actually have to tell him what happened face-to-face.