How can I tell people to please stop trying to force their ideas for MY wedding?!

Question

Everyone I tell about our upcoming wedding immediately comes up with suggestions on what kind of wedding, reception, and honeymoon we should have. We have already made reservations for a VERY small ceremony (with 2 guests), and reception dinner (with the same 2 guests). But, now that people know our plans, they are trying to force us to have a large reception that everyone can come to. A coworker of mine even RESERVED a reception hall, without asking us, and then just planted the news in my lap to deal with. We truly just want most of the day to be JUST the two of US. No matter how I try to say it, in my NICE way, they only come back and try to argue with me that I should make it happen. I need the most polite way possible to tell these ppl to butt the HE** out! Any suggestions?

Answer 1

Thats part of being a bride. Weddings bring out the best and worst in people. Women who haven't got married will live through you and women who have got married will re-live through you. And whenever I don't agree with people who want to plan my wedding for me, I am called a bridezilla so I know how you feel. You need to tell them that you don't want that sort of a wedding and tell them that is the end of the conversation and the co-worker who reserved something for you without asking first can take care of that on her own.  

Answer 2

i was wondering the same thing so far i just "oh" . As far as the coworker reserveing the hall i would let that be her problem and tell her you are allset.

Answer 3

Tell them that everyone gets to plan their own wedding, and this time its your turn.  

Answer 4

Frankly if any of these unwanted suggestions are coming from your family members and close friends, I am not surprised that they are making them because they must feel terribly hurt.

Answer 5

Hi and congratulations!

All you can say is...."thanks for that idea/suggestion.  I will think about it."

Personally, you are really going to have to STAND FIRM!!  I can't tell you how many on here have said "the day was all about what everyone else wanted....not us.....now

I regret it and want to do it over MY way."

So....you will really need to stand firm and not budge with your decision.  Personally,

I LOVE what you have planned.  It sounds beautiful and romantic.  

Be strong!

Answer 6

You have several ways to deal with this.

1) Smile, nod, then change the subject

2)  "That sounds nice but our plans cannot be changed'

3) 'That sounds great...for your wedding...not mine."

4) 'You do realize that this is MY wedding, right?"

5) "Oh, I'm sorry......but my fiance and I have already put a non-refundable deposit down on our wedding venue...sure hope you can get your money back, maybe you should have asked us first." (for the presumptuous who book stuff without your permission.

And for Pete's sake, Toots STOP talking about your wedding to co-workers......if they start up tell them they are welcomed to throw you a party....after the honeymoon!

and if that doesn't work....

'Please, BUTT THE H OUTTA MY WEDDING!"

sometimes a rude response is the only thing rude people understand.....good luck.

Answer 7

Just tell them thanks for the advice but you already have your wedding planned the way you want it. They may not like that but after all it is YOUR wedding and it should be what you want not what everybody else wants. =] Just don't be rude about it. =]  

Answer 8

It happends to everyone.  Someone always has a bright a idea or "knows someone" who can do this or that or provide this or that. If you don't care for any of it, then I suggest you turn into a Bridezilla and tell them straightup that everything is set and to knock it off. You can only be so nice for a short while. Its YOUR day and all about YOU and the groom of course. Don't get stressed out.....think happy thoughts and your new journey to come

Answer 9

just tell them you have already planned the whole thing ^^

Answer 10

If no matter how you try to say it, in your NICE way, they only come back and try to argue.. then I suppose you need to say butt the HE** out!

You can't control what other people do.