How can I trust my mum now?

Question

know I have already asked this but people didn't answer my question. I lets just pretend I don't care about the smoking. My problem is that she lied to me about it! Now answer the question please...

My parents have just recently broke up, due to my mum ending the relationship. It had been about a week when I came home to mum's place and found a packet of cigarettes on the dresser. I inquired mum about them and she said she had one. I started going on about all the dangers of smoking and stuff and mum snapped back, "It was only one, I swear on my life it's the only one I had!" Anyway, she promised not to smoke again. Mum and I fought a lot and I decided to live with my dad for a while. But when I went around to her place yesterday, she was having another one. I was talking to dad and he said she was also smoking a little before their breakup, and he didn't approve of this. I couldn't believe it. Mum swore on her life the first one I caught her having was the first. She lied me. And now I know she is going to, if she isn't already, get addicted to smoking. How can I trust her now?

Answer 1

Oh for heaven's sake!  Stop being such an infant.  Your Mom is a grown woman, and it is her own business.

She knows you don't approve, but she's hooked on nicotine.  Why are you letting a thing like that get in the way of having a relationship with her?  Lay off, already.

Answer 2

Maybe she was trying to protect you. Mum's do tell white lies sometimes but normally for good reasons!!

I think that the only person you can 100% trust in life is your mother, try not to let that go. Sit calmly and ask her why she said what she said and explain how you feel to her.   I used to smoke and if I got stressed smoking used to make me feel better. A relationship split is a very hard thing to go through. Maybe it was comfort for her.

All you can so is speak to her.

Answer 3

You can't.

But you CAN still help your mum.

Even if your can't trust her, she's still your mum and you love her. try to help her. go to another adult, an aunt, a friends mum, a doctor or teacher or even your dad. or, if you feel uncomfortable, you can talk to a friend. just someone what's going on. Don't let your feelings about your mum smoking get bottled up until you explode (and trust me, you will. I bottled up my feelings this summer about a guy, and yesterday, i exploded into a crying blubbering monster)

and finally, don't expect your mum not to put up a fight. she'll want to keep smoking and nobody likes being confronted or being wrong.

good luck!!!!! :-)  

Answer 4

Let your mother lead her life for crying out loud!

Answer 5

it's her life she's ruining and don't let it be yours shes ruining. just sit down and tell her that you don't care if she smokes just tell to don't smoke around you.