How can I try and better myself?

Question

These past couple years, I've been unbelievably loud and obnoxious and just very in your face. The past couple MONTHS, however, It's really been bothering me, and I seem really stupid. I still want to be outgoing, but I want my true personality to show, while still being a little quiet if you know what i mean. I'm pretty bookish and I am passionate about my hobbies but nobody really knows this, and I want my "solid" personality to show through.

Thanks in advanced, AND please keep your rude comments to yourself ;]

Answer 1

Listen to people first before you talk. think about what they say then respond.  then say something of your own if it reminds you of something.

The best thing to always keep in mind is.. there is a time and place for everything.   It is difficult to know when and where for a lot of things.

but thats part of becoming more mature, and gaining wisdom.

If you want to seem less stupid... listening more and talking less will always help. always.  and thinking about what you say BEFORE you say it. thats very important also.

Answer 2

Think 2wice b4 speaking & also listen 2 other pple as they speak, this will promote a better social life, and also allow u 2 be urself, u can b who u r & put ur points across without being agressive, be assertive, but not aggresive.

Answer 3

Firstly, stop thinking about yourself and your self-imposed ego trip. Do start and think and act kindly to all the people you meet, talk to or even think about from afar. This way you will give yourself such a huge boost you'll fall on your backside and wonder what happened.I find that people who worry about their own self image are selfish and never get any better.