How can a dead beat dad request joint custody?

Question

MY DAUGHTERS FATHER HAS BEEN ABSENT FROM MY HER LIFE FOR 2 YEARS. I FILED A PETITION TO ESTABLISH A PARENTAL RELATIONSHIP THAT WENT INTO DEFAULT AND A OSC- CUSTODY AND VISITATION AND HE FILED A RESPONSE FOR THE PARENTAL RELATIONSHIP INSTEAD OF THE OSC ASK THE COURT FOR JOINT CUSTODY? MY DAUGHTER DOESN'T EVEN KNOW HIM. IS THERE ANY WAY HE WILL HONESTLY BE GRANTED THIS? THERE IS ALSO A DOMESTIC VIOLENCE RESTRAINING ORDER ON FILE, BECAUSE HE'S BEEN THREATING TO KILL ME. DOES HE REALLY HAVE A SHOT AT GETTING MY DAUGHTER IF SHE DOESN'T KNOW HIM?

Answer 1

My child did not know her father either. When we went to court she was just about 2. I said I didnt want to hinder their relationship but I feared for her emotional state of mind so I made a few requests. All were granted without hesitation because all were very much in the best interests of the child. Some of those requests were, a set amount of visits in my own home (or with me present) so that she could become familiar with him. A child should not be forced to go with a stranger, that is scary. Also no overnight visits til she was 3.  She needed to be old enough to verbalize any concerns. Anything else you have in mind, speak up and make the request. If you fear for your childs safety, spill the info and explain why so that the courts can help you protect your child. The child and father do have a right to know each other so as long as he is not abusive then you need to allow them to form a relationship even if it is a sore spot and he has been absent for 2 years. She wont remember those, but she will eventually  needs a father in her life. The court will not let him just have a child that has been solely raised by you. It just wont happen unless you are completely unfit.

Answer 2

No,there is evidence that he is not a fit parent..considering the restraint filed on him for threatening your life which in turn could affect your child as well.Courts do not take this kind of thing lightly. Also since he has been gone for 2 yrs they will also see that as abandonment and its really an unexcusable absense in the child's life. which in turn looks horrible on him that he wanted nothing to do with the child until you filed,and all of the sudden now he wants to be in her life.

If the courts have their heads on straight and not up their butts then I seriously do not see a joint custody in his future...the most they MIGHT do,and I stress MIGHT,is allow him visitation and it will more than likely be supervised.

Answer 3

First off pull it together for your daughter's sake. No he should not have a chance in h**l. Start talking to a d**n good lawyer for advice on what stuff you need to do to get him to sign he's rights away involuntary.