How can a deal with being sexually assaulted

Question

a year ago i was dragged into a car and sexually assaulted i was also threatened with a knife althought i wasnt raped i could have been if i hadnt managed to break free in time

i didnt report this to the police

few close friends and my bf know of this but they dont know the true full details of what happened to me

i havent thought about this for a year but it has been playing my mind if late and i cant get the horrific images out of my head when i get drunk or even when im not iv been getting very emotional and depressed about it

i am currently in a stable relationship with a caring guy whome i love however i just cant find a way to tell him the full details and its not fair on him as iv become needy and emotional of late becouse of it all and i dont want to lose him or puch him away please help me i dont know how i can deal with this

Answer 1

it takes time to get rid of the images.. I have been beaten, raped and

left for dead in 2001..The thing you need to remember is that it wasn't your fault and there isn't anything you can do now..But, be strong..if you let it get to you, then you will be a victim ..if you live your life..tell him how you feel..be honest..to over come is to be a fighter..help other people who have felt this pain..for god will be his judge, jury..for his end will come..

Answer 2

Seek professional help from a psychologist.  Preferably one who specializes in dealing with those who have been sexually assaulted.

This does not make you crazy by any means.  It will help you work through your issues and your life and relationship should both benefit.  Whether you ever tell your BF or not is a matter for you to decide once you have these things sorted out.

Best of luck!

Answer 3

Phone the Samaritans. They're not just about suicide. They'll talk to you and maybe help.

http://www.samaritans.org/

Answer 4

Look into seeing a therapist who treats anxiety, especially PTSD.  Also try your local crisis / help line.  A (presumably) British poster mentioned the Samaritans, which also have branches other countries including NYC and New England in the US; they have a variety of names in the US, and are called Distress Centres or Crisis Centres in Canada.

Answer 5

Go to see your Doctor and she / he can get you counselling or contact any one of the large number of counselling services on offer direct.

Answer 6

You have to get yourself some professional help.  If you don't have much money, try a social service agency or clinic that helps low-income people.

You also need to contact a rape help advocacy agency.  They could probably tell you what legal options you have.  There might be statutes of limitations in your state and they must be observed.

You might also consider contacting a public service attorney.  Hopefully, the advocacy agency or social service agency could help you out with this matter.

Answer 7

Your in a difficult situation, i had a woman attack sort of rape me when i was only 9 years old, she was a neighbour who's kids i used to play with and one afternoon while round her flat she shut her girls outside and cornered me, telling me to get my private bits out, i wouldent so she hit me, i run but the street door was locked, so grabbed hold of me and pulled down my trousers and started playing with my willy, then she pulled her knickers down and tried to put my thing into her.

Lucky thing her mum came home to the flat and forced her way in, she took me home and the police were called but guess who got the blame? ME !!!  YEP THE COPPER BLAMED ME, MY DAD BLAMED ME AND BEAT ME UP TO CONFIRM IT.

It has taken me years to get over it, nowdays its in the past, no longer bothers me or makes me depressed, maybe it would help to speak to a close friend, in my days things were very different, people used to get away with doing such things.  

Answer 8

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I hope this helps a bit! I also suggest not getting drunk and making things worse, self medicating usually doesn't end well. It is good to get a with a close friends whom you know and trust and talk about it and maybe trying to also find support groups and I know Weave can help with that and the zine has been well rated as helping out and I would suggest getting a copy!

Good luck and hope you are able to move past that bad chapter in life!

Answer 9

Try to find some professional help, call rape crisis centers, or some of the resources listed by other answers.

It is not your fault.  

There is no reason why you should have to tell the guy you are in a relationship with if you don't want to.  

If you know who the persons were you might still be able to have them charged, and it might make you feel better.

Alcohol is not the answer.

Good Luck

Answer 10

hey there

you must deal with this ok

go and get some councelling

speak to the police about it they can help with victim support.

speak to someone out side of your family and friends as this person will be objective and be able to help you more.

good luck

even though you have been a victim of a nasty crime you do not have to say being a victim ok

i know  trust me